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Stepping Into The Unknown
Twoapenny:
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Thanks, Bonesie (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Had a callback from a solicitor who thinks they might be able to help. We didn't both have a free time at the same time this week so will speak to them next week. Am going round in circles a bit trying to find a way to stop my mum - I think the problem is such an unusual one that it doesn't fit into any categories and the organisations I've approached so far didn't really know what to suggest. Haven't had definite no's yet but no definite 'yes' from anyone either. If the worst comes to the worst I can always stack all the paperwork against her front door so she can't get out the house :) Have a counselling appointment at a sexual abuse clinic tomorrow. Not sure if that's going to help or hinder at the moment!
Meh:
Hope things go well for you two. Sounds like maybe the only thing that a person can do at a certain point is litigation... or to get away..... IDK Community services probably are not going to initiate something like that. It's just like a bunch of people that graduated with social work Bachelors degrees.
There might be no way to right the wrong that has happened. IDK it really sucks and maybe that doesn't apply to you but sometimes I find myself walking away from something that feels like a huge emotional loss.. like some kind of emotional war that has been waged and then to not be victorious.... like sometimes there isn't anyway to avenge.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Garbanzo on April 25, 2014, 12:26:08 AM ---Hope things go well for you two. Sounds like maybe the only thing that a person can do at a certain point is litigation... or to get away..... IDK Community services probably are not going to initiate something like that. It's just like a bunch of people that graduated with social work Bachelors degrees.
There might be no way to right the wrong that has happened. IDK it really sucks and maybe that doesn't apply to you but sometimes I find myself walking away from something that feels like a huge emotional loss.. like some kind of emotional war that has been waged and then to not be victorious.... like sometimes there isn't anyway to avenge.
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Hi g, thank you, I do understand completely what you mean. Emotionally I've already walked away, it still stings a bit sometimes but you are absolutely right, sometimes you have to just know that you weren't the one in the wrong and keep on walking with your head held high. At this point there are two things I'm trying to achieve (ideally) 1 would be some sort of restraining order to stop my mum making false claims and hassling my son in the future, 2 is to get him compensation for a medical injury I think he suffered but I haven't been able to prove yet. If I can do those things, great, if not then okay, no problem. It would just make life easier for him in the future but if we can't do it that way then no problem. But, yes, emotionally I think I managed to detach myself from the outcome quite some time ago now and that does make things easier. Thank you xx
BonesMS:
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--- Quote from: BonesMS on April 24, 2014, 06:49:55 AM ---(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Thanks, Bonesie (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Had a callback from a solicitor who thinks they might be able to help. We didn't both have a free time at the same time this week so will speak to them next week. Am going round in circles a bit trying to find a way to stop my mum - I think the problem is such an unusual one that it doesn't fit into any categories and the organisations I've approached so far didn't really know what to suggest. Haven't had definite no's yet but no definite 'yes' from anyone either. If the worst comes to the worst I can always stack all the paperwork against her front door so she can't get out the house :) Have a counselling appointment at a sexual abuse clinic tomorrow. Not sure if that's going to help or hinder at the moment!
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I'm standing with you and there is strength in numbers!
Twoapenny:
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--- Quote from: Twoapenny on April 24, 2014, 04:31:03 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on April 24, 2014, 06:49:55 AM ---(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Thanks, Bonesie (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Had a callback from a solicitor who thinks they might be able to help. We didn't both have a free time at the same time this week so will speak to them next week. Am going round in circles a bit trying to find a way to stop my mum - I think the problem is such an unusual one that it doesn't fit into any categories and the organisations I've approached so far didn't really know what to suggest. Haven't had definite no's yet but no definite 'yes' from anyone either. If the worst comes to the worst I can always stack all the paperwork against her front door so she can't get out the house :) Have a counselling appointment at a sexual abuse clinic tomorrow. Not sure if that's going to help or hinder at the moment!
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I'm standing with you and there is strength in numbers!
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Thanks, Bones! (((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
So far - nothing's happened! Appointment at the sexual abuse clinic went well and therapist was lovely but there's an eight month wait to be seen so I'm now on the list. Haven't heard back from any of the sols I contacted yet.
Am having some thoughts about going to the police and/or getting an injunction against my mum.
At the moment, life is good. We are happier and in a better position than we have been for a very long time. If the police take action against her, it will be stressful. If they don't, it will be stressful. If I go for an injunction and fail I think she will come back harder. If we get an injunction I imagine she can get round it by making anonyomous calls from phone boxes - they wouldn't be able to prove it was her and so wouldn't be able to do anything about it. I think anything to do with her will be stressful, so my thinking at the minute is how much stress is it worth taking? Trying to weigh up the pros and cons of either trying to take action against her or assigning it all to our past and leaving it there.
i don't have to make a decision about any of it within any sort of time frame so I'm just going to let it whirl around my head until I feel I know what I want to do.
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