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Apoeal Court ruling
Hopalong:
Hmm. I hadn't consciously parsed what I meant ...
but I guess I am thinking they have malignant intentions
toward YOU, which they have expresssed or would express in how
they relate to the children?
Meaning--I was figuring they do love their grandchildren.
That make sense?
Forgive my over-interpreting if I'm off base.
Hops
lighter:
Tupp:
I'm sad to hear there aren't any programs available for your son right now, but glad to read he's thriving at home with you. You're such a devoted mother, Tupp. He's a lucky little man.
Hops: I knew what you meant, and your thoughts make more sense than the facts involved. Do the IL's want to do trauma to my children, as a priority? I'm sure they don't...... do they see the children as extensions of me?
I have no idea, and nothing to gain if it could be discerned.
Trauma to children is trauma, whether it's an unintended consequence, or their master plan.
Lighter
Hopalong:
I think you're right. I get it.
The trauma of being stirred up or manipulated by them not managing their toxic feelings would negate the gift of their loving-grandparent feelings.
It's all mixed together.
I hear you, mama tiger.
love
Hops
lighter:
Hi Hops:
They aren't really the loving grandparent sort.
It was more a matter of giving up hope they would be, rather than giving up the loving relationship we wished my children had with them.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on November 06, 2014, 03:48:18 PM ---Tupp:
I'm sad to hear there aren't any programs available for your son right now, but glad to read he's thriving at home with you. You're such a devoted mother, Tupp. He's a lucky little man.
--- End quote ---
There's very little in the UK that you don't have to pay for yourself; if you've got plenty of money then there's loads to do! I am cherry picking the bits we need the most, paying for what I can, doing my best on the other stuff and trying to focus on today and not keep worrying endlessly into the future. I find that hard; I've had to protect both of us for so long that it feels like a natural thing to keep building defences but I really want to change my mind set so that my default mode is that most people are okay and not too many are bad. It's a big shift but I'm working on it.
I hope things are levelling out now for all of you and that you get some peace now, it's amazing how different life is when you're not fighting fires :)
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