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Sex and not wanting sex
Hopalong:
This is the "for worse" part, Kel...and also the "in sickness."
If he thinks he was promised weekly (or any) intercourse, regardless of your health, forever...he did the wrong ceremony.
I so wish you had enough support in your life that you could ask others to help you move to a small serene place,
and not have to deal with road rage, constant complaining, or sexual demands. It's intolerable to even think about.
I wonder if a compassionate attorney (not an oxymoron, I have one) could advise you?
Or an elder services agency?
I am so sorry you're in this situation.
Hops
Meh:
I think it is normal for people to stop wanting sex when a certain age rolls around because no need to reproduce. IDK women go through menopause and I guess men don't.
Too bad you couldn't talk to his doctor and get the doc to prescribe a libido lessening prescription O_O I know .. will never happen
Some people do hormone replacement therapy but still as some point who cares about sex anymore.
I am so glad I am not married, honestly being bothered to minister to men's gross bodily functions... so glad I am not married idk just me I guess
teenage guys just jerk off... not sure why adult men cant do this.. shrug
oh you could get him a "flesh lite" it is like the male equivalent to a dildo lol are we allowed to talk about this stuff. prob not.
Overcomer:
Hahaha Garbanzo!! Yes. That's what I think!! Come on!! I just don't want to and I kind of avoid him when I notice he is giving me "the look." Can't I just have peace while I am struggling to STAY ALIVE?
Hopalong:
Cancer trumps horniness.
Period.
Thus Spake Hopsathustra
Overcomer:
Thanks Hops!!!! I sooooo agree.
Now I've got another dilemma. He and I and my bro and sis in law were going to go to Mexico in a month. Today my bro called and said they couldn't afford it. So I had told myself I would NEVER ever again go on a vacation with my husband alone again for 2 reasons. One, he is boring and 2, he is abusive. I snore and one time he kept nudging me because I would start snoring and then he finally kicked me - hard. Never did get to sleep that night. Then another trip he had been drinking and he jumped up threw things around the room, made a bed on the couch and again, no sleep for me. He counters with, "well, I cannot sleep with you snoring." So I told him, I cannot control my snoring, you can control your anger.
So today I was going to pull the trigger and get us a 6 day trip to Cancun alone. Then I texted him and told him I couldn't take the chance of him throwing a hissy fit because of my snoring. So he's been furious ever since and is giving me the silent treatment.
In the past I have pretty much always deferred to his will when he pressures me for sex or would go on the trip to make him happy.
I AM NOT THIS TIME!
HE CAN GO SCREW HIMSELF. I WILL NOT BE BULLIED ANYMORE BY THIS MAN!!
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