Need to vent about my mother.

[Meh]

I'm tired so this might be sparse. Well sometimes I have a hard time composing words together its like I cant focus or am too frustrated idk.

Nephews are coming to visit from out of town, when I try to talk to my mother about it she kind of avoids talking about it. There is no real convo. She never converses with me. Oh well ... and I seem to be too worn out will come back to this. 

[Hopalong]

I was wondering if you could contact nephews directly?
You're a relative in your own right and you can have your own interests/invitations
for them. She doesn't own the family.

As my Nmother got older, if someone was coming to town,
I'd usually send them a message, suggesting that as she
did need to rest more than in years before...I thought on X day
we (me and the visitor) would do ___ (outing, activity, whatever).

I wouldn't even mention it to her because otherwise she'd start
taking over every second, planning wise. As an adult woman I had a
right to experience my own relatives. When the time came I wouldn't
ask her, I'd kindly TELL her: So-and-so and I are going to ___ and we
will be back at X o'clock.

Premature advice and you didn't ask for any.

love
Hops

[Meh]

Hey Hops  Thanks!

Well in the past week and a half I did get the email for my older nephew and have sent him a few emails. They are just kids. For the most part my family just is what it is.

The younger one is on facebook all the time but I haven't contacted him.

In some ways I feel like its all none of my business.

The good news is it seems like I will be seeing them when I am here. And I have already spent a bunch of money on fireworks and trendy kids crafts things for them to do etc. 
Spent hours trying to figure out where they might be able to easily go fishing. Coerced my mother into letting me take them to the zoo instead of them spending three hours to drive to my dead brother's highschool and back.. O_O

Now I feel worried that I went overboard with the deal about spoiling them but shrug. Its meant to be about "quality time"

My bitch mother tried to talk me into cooking for her forth of july party that she didnt invite me to...... She can get some pre-made food for all i care. That is a big ass NO way.

[Hopalong]

Auntie Boat.

Frustrations and all, it sounds SO wonderful to me that you set up playful joyful times with them REGARDLESS.

How did it go?

love
Hops