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Butterfly:
Hi, All.  It has been a very long time since I last posted, here.  Going on 8 years no contact with NM.  Doing great.  But … Ns and sociopaths are everywhere …

Hops and Tup, I hope you are both well. 

Has anyone used what is called the "Grey Rock" approach?  Basically, it is having nothing interesting to say and boring the Npath to death so that they lose interest and move on to target another.  This method would never work with a so-called "empath" or a person who is aware, but I have read that it can work wonders with Npaths.   

Thanks so much for your insights.

Butterfly

Hopalong:
Helloooo ((((((Butterfly!))))))

What a pleasure to hear a voice anew, who meant a lot Back When.

Is this it?

http://180rule.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/

If so, how is it working? It reminds me of "Medium Chill", too.

love
Hops

Ales2:
lol Gray Rock is great...its using their psychology against them without being malicious or manipulative. Just non-reactive and boring.  I think I will actually get a rock and put it on my desk just to remind me....

Ive also tried a mindfulness conversation technique Ive used with employees who complain ..I just ask them "whats next? What needs to be done?" This gets them off complaining and into action mode...

Thanks for this post very helpful!

Hopalong:

--- Quote ---I will actually get a rock and put it on my desk just to remind me....
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This is a great idea, Ales!

Thank you.

:)
Hops

sea storm:
Good idea.

Must get grey rock.  I don"t quite get the  what's next technique.

Is it like saying " Is there anything else bothering you?"  This is  a good one for someone who is bursting with resentments. Instead of sticking with the complaint, get the whole list. By end of the list a little light goes on. 

For instance:  Couple sitting at table.... Wife says  You always read the newspaper at breakfast...... Anything else?  You always ignore me.... Anything else? you chew with your mouth open?   Anything else? You don't put the garbage out.... Anything else ?  You don't feed the dog...... Anything else? You never complement me

Etc.   This can be a good thing and end up with hysterical laughing. or else it can end in divorce.

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