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Job Hunt -- what it takes
sKePTiKal:
Well Hops, about the west coast opportunity...
IIRC, you said he'd present his idea and your credentials to the board the end of last week. Depending on how risk-averse (which is biz-speak for anxiety) the board is, they may have wanted some time to think about things. It's not uncommon for opportunities like this to take a month or two to happen. To iron out the details, double-triple-check assumptions and expectations; to negotiate a mutually agreeable set of expectations and parameters. Sounds like it is a new position in their organization, and well - there are existing persons there getting the job done, perhaps in addition to their regular responsibilities. Even if you'd lighten their load and make their overall process stronger - people could have some negative feelings about that situation. So, the boss will have to plan out just how to handle that - and present the information to them, too - so people don't feel like they've done something wrong, or not up to snuff... you get the picture.
Meanwhile, the foremost thing in your current life shakeup is to find solid ground; shelter; security. Understandable, too. I would wait until the end of this week, torturous as that may be, before contacting him for an update. And yes, you should stay busy. Sounds like you have absolutely the best mix of activities in mind for your overall well-being.
I sympathize with not wanting to be in an extended state of limbo, though. Going through my own right now; it's opening old cans of worms -- some exhaustively picked over for nutritious bits; and something I couldn't focus on during the last navel-gazing mission, but is just as important. Hang in there, sweetie. I might be around more often, as I sort through this new-old thing - I always need feedback & other people's perspectives - and I'm shifting into a new phase of the grief process, too. Whee; multitasking. LOL....
lighter:
Six months breathing space.....
I felt my anxiety for you click down a couple notches just reading that, and my anxiety sort of rides alongside yours. I feel excited for you, then tense, and on it goes with your ride.
All will be well Hops. I know it will.
Having that space means means you can move forward without urgency. Choose mindfully, and with prupose.
Yes.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Tupp, you are a pal. I truly appreciate how you tune in to the emotion that's going on and just offer kindness and encouragement. How could anyone not value you? (Start with recognizing yourself, how good you truly are. Not attached to your performance, either.)
Thank you for slowing me down, PR...reminding me to realize I don't know what's happening out there and giving it a week is wise and calm (well, fake calm, but that'll do). Really really helpful to have you visualizing things in such a realistic way. It helps me to remind myself of how glad I made that trip regardless of the outcome. It was so validating it was worth the effort even if no work comes from it. Every interview is good practice, just as every first date is...that's my motto!
And Lighter, thank you so much for caring, and reminding me to breathe and be mindful and purposeful. That's exactly the antidote to spinning and panicking. You have a lot of discipline and that inspires me. I'll never be that steady but I can still move forward. Thank you.
love y'all,
Hops
sKePTiKal:
I can relate to panic, Hops. Going through enough of it myself lately.
Hopalong:
I know. Oy.
I hate fear.
I'm gonna go have a drink.
hugs
Hops
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