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What gives you your sense of self worth
sKePTiKal:
This feeling of simple joy (and maybe a little "mirroring" of self??) in the "nesting process" is something I think people who try to duplicate the look in magazines or the home shows miss out on. It's less an "expression" of self - although there are aspects of it - than it is a deliberate choice about what one wants around you... and what nurtures you.
I've always enjoyed this process because there's NO WAY you can make your own nest "wrong"!! Whatever you choose for yourself is "just right" for YOU. And things can move around and change color whenever you feel like it. Right now I have one lamp that's moving around until I can find just the right spot for the light -- and a level section of the slate floor. LOL.
Hopalong:
That sounds beautiful, Tupp. I tried a yellow but mine was too strong.
I love hearing that you have a lot of natural light! That's just awesome.
A friend of mine has an interior townhouse and I've always noticed how dark
her place feels. She even has SAD (chicken? egg?) but has started using the light.
You'll do exactly the right thing your heart/brain need with color, and
the only problem, of course, is that you can't spell it. :lol: (Whoops, it's
yanks who can't spell it, since we stole it from you we broke it.)
Amber, I couldn't agree more about the sterility of home-decor-looking
places. Although some are lovely and beautifully composed, so many
people crank it up to where it feels "over-composed", imo. It drains
imagination to get too many ideas from Out There, when the most
interesting/affirming ones come from what you actually feel personally
good about.
Nothing wrong with enjoying/learning from/being inspired by experts,
and I like watching her too, but danged if Martha Stewart didn't terrify
a whole new generation of females into feeling not good enough. Grrr.
Thanks for sharing your nesting rambles because they're lovely to read.
Hugs
Hops
lighter:
I missed the posts on decorating....not sure how, but I did. I think I woke up frying 3 lbs of bacon every morning over holiday, then split wood, or helped cut and move large trees so we could split... just very busy.
Hops, the light blue color.... love love love. It makes my heart happy.
When we were in the apartment I painted my bathroom a shade of blue from Restoration Hardware.... so soothing and calm. Sometimes I'd just BE in that color, and it helped me feel better.
I need more blue in my life. Maybe I'll paint my master BR blue...... I think it'll be great with the art.
In my little house, in my old life, I painted the LR light yellow.... so pale and restful. The nursery was a little deeper yellow, but very calm. The DR had a stencil of a ram I designed and cut out, painted gold near the ceiling. It was beautiful. I did enjoy that for a while, but wouldn't do it again.
Lots of neutrals, and lovely large stone tiles in the kitchen, and slate floor in the found third bathroom we put in when we took out an old chimney in the hallway during renovation. It had a vaulted ceiling, and a skylight.... it was so scary to take a bath during a storm and watch the big oak trees sway overhead. Eeek.
We salvaged most of the hardwoods, which was a miracle, bc not much else got salvaged besides the stick built frame of the house. I got a super deal on a big antique butcher's block and put it in the center of the kitchen.... just right.
I planted my first real garden in that house.... it was a jungle of huge tomato plants that kept giving and giving. It seemed so easy then.
Light
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on December 24, 2016, 02:18:05 PM ---That sounds beautiful, Tupp. I tried a yellow but mine was too strong.
I love hearing that you have a lot of natural light! That's just awesome.
A friend of mine has an interior townhouse and I've always noticed how dark
her place feels. She even has SAD (chicken? egg?) but has started using the light.
You'll do exactly the right thing your heart/brain need with color, and
the only problem, of course, is that you can't spell it. :lol: (Whoops, it's
yanks who can't spell it, since we stole it from you we broke it.)
Amber, I couldn't agree more about the sterility of home-decor-looking
places. Although some are lovely and beautifully composed, so many
people crank it up to where it feels "over-composed", imo. It drains
imagination to get too many ideas from Out There, when the most
interesting/affirming ones come from what you actually feel personally
good about.
Nothing wrong with enjoying/learning from/being inspired by experts,
and I like watching her too, but danged if Martha Stewart didn't terrify
a whole new generation of females into feeling not good enough. Grrr.
Thanks for sharing your nesting rambles because they're lovely to read.
Hugs
Hops
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Ha ha, Hops, COLOUR! Lol :)
Yellow can be very strong and I'm not sure if the way I see colours means I don't see it as strongly as some other people would? So it might be that everyone else thinks "Yikes, look at that!" whilst I think it's really relaxing.
I am really enjoying putting together little areas of things that I love. We've a tiny vestibule as you come through the front door and I've put up coat hooks that a friend gave me (shaped like little beach huts) and some prayer flags from the same friend. As you go up the stairs (it's a first floor flat so you come into the front door and head straight up) I've put bright. educational posters for my son and I've hung scarves and hanging ornaments (like strings of seahorses and Indian Bells, which I love) from the posts that attach the bannisters to the wall. There's a high window with a wide ledge and I've put a collage of pictures of friends, one of me underwater in India many years ago and my one and only pic of me with my dad on the ledge with a little candle. At the top of the stairs is a lovely little unit I bought with some money a friend gave me for Christmas that hides away outdoor clutter and has open shelves for folded scarves (which I seem to have a lot of!). On top of that are two plants that are gifts from friends and it's just nice to walk in and see love and friendship in front of me. That's about as far as I've got so far, everything else is planned in my mind and I'm just doing things bit by bit :)
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on January 11, 2017, 10:46:44 PM ---I missed the posts on decorating....not sure how, but I did. I think I woke up frying 3 lbs of bacon every morning over holiday, then split wood, or helped cut and move large trees so we could split... just very busy.
Hops, the light blue color.... love love love. It makes my heart happy.
When we were in the apartment I painted my bathroom a shade of blue from Restoration Hardware.... so soothing and calm. Sometimes I'd just BE in that color, and it helped me feel better.
I need more blue in my life. Maybe I'll paint my master BR blue...... I think it'll be great with the art.
In my little house, in my old life, I painted the LR light yellow.... so pale and restful. The nursery was a little deeper yellow, but very calm. The DR had a stencil of a ram I designed and cut out, painted gold near the ceiling. It was beautiful. I did enjoy that for a while, but wouldn't do it again.
Lots of neutrals, and lovely large stone tiles in the kitchen, and slate floor in the found third bathroom we put in when we took out an old chimney in the hallway during renovation. It had a vaulted ceiling, and a skylight.... it was so scary to take a bath during a storm and watch the big oak trees sway overhead. Eeek.
We salvaged most of the hardwoods, which was a miracle, bc not much else got salvaged besides the stick built frame of the house. I got a super deal on a big antique butcher's block and put it in the center of the kitchen.... just right.
I planted my first real garden in that house.... it was a jungle of huge tomato plants that kept giving and giving. It seemed so easy then.
Light
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I love those memories of earlier places, Lighter, it sounds like such a nice place to live :) I love those butcher's blocks, quite hard to come by in the UK now (antique ones, at any rate), it's funny to wonder which day to day sets in shops and businesses these days will make their way into people's homes a hundred years from now?
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