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What gives you your sense of self worth
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Garbanzo on July 12, 2016, 01:57:07 AM ---Friend told me to take my ten year old camera out with me. I did. Can't say the pics are national geographic worthy but I have enjoyed sharing them with others who are not able to see this area themselves. Sort of like playing tourist in my own town.
How are the poetry, photography, writing forums going?
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I love going out with a camera, G, I find it focuses my mind on the small things in front of me and I walk about looking for something to take shots of instead of my mind wandering and doing it's negative stuff! We're doing road safety at the moment (myself and my boy) so our project this afternoon is to take lots of pictures around town of different kinds of traffic, obstacles on pavements, safe and unsafe places to cross, that sort of thing, and I'm quite excited about it! Lol :)
I am just reading on the forums at the minute; I'm finding them very useful with lots of tips and handy info and I've read a couple of people's poems and I do think I have written a couple of bits that are of similar quality so it is helping to boost my confidence a bit. I'm trying to spend a bit of time each day working on/learning about poetry, story writing and photography; they're all things that I enjoy and I do like focusing on a skill or a hobby rather than 'world issues' which seem to dominate most other platforms on the internet (all anyone can talk or write about here is the referendum and I just want to ignore it now!). But yes, the forums are good, a new place for me to start casting my eye around in, just trying to get myself out of my rut.
There are some great pics on Ello, I don't know if you know it, G? It's a social media site but focuses on creativity rather thqn chatter
Twoapenny:
Second session with new T tonight. She uses a technique called LifeSpan - don't know if it's around in the States (or called the same thing) but it's a way of attaching new emotions to old memories so that triggers don't cause as many problems. In essence, you imagine a scenario in your mind where you 'rescue' your younger self from the trauma that is happening, or you focus on a good memory in a certain period and that becomes your anchor so you feel good things rather than bad when something from that era is triggered.
We've not started on it properly yet, just had a little practise tonight so that I could get an idea of what it's like. She asked me for my earliest memory, which is age 3, peeling stickers off of new shoes. Age four was my favourite pair of flares and age five was sitting on my dad's lap driving his car down the drive. They were happy memories, which surprised me, because looking backwards is generally always negative for me. But her suggestion is you go with the first one that comes to mind for that age group (you try to find one for every year of your life) and my immediate ones were happy ones and I did leave feel a lot more content than I did when I got there! I'm not sure how it works when you have a bad memory and go in to rescue yourself from it but I'm feeling positive about it and looking forward to going back next week :)
lighter:
Hi Tupp:
You're working on you! So deserved.
This is as good a spot to post this link about Brain Spotting, which I've just learned about, and have just started to research..... it's similar to EMDR, but different... much more open model.
http://www.ask.com/youtube?q=brainspotting+therapists&v=lm3Plvaf3UE&qsrc=472
You may have to copy and paste the above link.
This makes a lot of sense to me. Congrats to starting with new T: )
(((Tupp)))
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on July 12, 2016, 06:53:04 PM ---Hi Tupp:
You're working on you! So deserved.
This is as good a spot to post this link about Brain Spotting, which I've just learned about, and have just started to research..... it's similar to EMDR, but different... much more open model.
http://www.ask.com/youtube?q=brainspotting+therapists&v=lm3Plvaf3UE&qsrc=472
You may have to copy and paste the above link.
This makes a lot of sense to me. Congrats to starting with new T: )
(((Tupp)))
Lighter
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Hi Lighter, thank you for the link! Will read through a bit later.
Yes, I like this T, I have a good feeling about her. She's a bit older than me, which I like, seems very nurturing and caring (which I also like), gets on with things, has told me straight that the sessions are about me, not her so I'm to tell her if I'm not happy/comfortable/don't want to do something and I'm not to worry about her at all (this was after I told her that my people pleasing traits have sometimes meant therapy didn't go as well for me as it could have done in the past).
I do feel that the sexual abuse is my 'thing' at the moment; did feel able to talk about it relatively easily (which I've never been able to before). She was quite direct on my behalf, which I liked, made it very clear that what happened was appalling and was serious and that I've been let down by a lot of people who should have helped, which is nice to hear from someone else even though I knew it already. All in all I am feeling this is a good move and that she can help me get to my next stage!
How is everything going with you? xx
lighter:
Tupp:
DD15 is happily nested in new Boarding School.... she knows some girls there, so she's very happy to have that support and familiar community. She's invested in sisterhood and supporting other young women while asking for support. It's lovely to watch her blossom. She's smiling all the time, and using her voice, TUPP!
I sent a care package today..... books, magazines, book light, work out shoes, calendar and planner. A watch. She's really on a good path, and the Brain Spotting is one of the things that her T is using. He's wonderful, and it seemed like every word from him was dead on, and overtly helpful. He has 30 years experience in this work..... I feel so blessed.
I'm going back to school in the fall, and have lots of research to do before that happens. I feel very content bustling about in the house on my own.... not lonely at all. Very.... content.
Glad you're happy with your T.... you deserve to finish up the past, put a bow on it and move ahead.
These are your days, Tupp: )
Lighter
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