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Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on April 15, 2017, 11:51:48 AM ---You hit it directly on the head, Tupp.  I did take much of the stuff so sf wouldn't have to deal with it.  So he felt it was dealt with, cared for, and cherished.... safely off his plate..... some small peace of mind restored.  I did this with an elderly neighbor many years back.... I took much of it to Goodwill.....then she moved out of her retirement home, and wanted some of it back!  Duoh!

I'll get a rush of energy, edit and cull, then purge to cleanse my mind and space. There are things I want to offer up to the cousins.... and I will.

Right now I'm in the kitchen with my 16yodd and we're cooking.... BAKING really. Waiting for yeast to proof.  bacon is cooked, and waiting to go into fluffy brunch eggs. 

Music in the background playing.... CCR..... yes.

I'm learning to let the waves roll over me, just noticing them, not becoming a part of them.... getting roiled around by them is just part of the journey, and it's OK to name them, and recover my footing.   

CCR is one of those things I really enjoy right now.   

All will be well: )

Lighter

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What is it about cooking?  It does make you feel safe and looked after somehow?  Kind of restores that balance and gets things back on track.  I can smell the bacon :)

I'm glad you're feeling better about it.  Sometimes I think it's the amount of work and the responsibility that you're holding for someone else that can be overwhelming - what to keep, what to give away - what if they want it back, as your neighbour did.  Enjoy the day with your kiddies, Lighter xx

Hopalong:
Happy Easter or Spring or Horny Hares or Whatever Day You Find Glorious, all--

Hey Lighter, I'll play a little debbil's advocate, fwiw. Here's how I might think through it:

--It's stuff. Even though SF invests all the objects with sentiment, they are still only objects.
--If SF is well enough to one day travel to visit his stuff chez you, then some physical storage may be needed.
--If that is highly unlikely because of his age/debility, the question is: who has legal custody of his stuff?
--If it's you AND you haven't promised him that no shred of stuff will be discarded--then you can edit, donate, and discard. All in an attitude of respect for his reality + respect for your own values (and stress).
--If you DID specifically promise him no shred of stuff would be discarded, then you may have made a mistake, and will have to work through with whatever support you need, how you might honor his wishes.

In my view, donating is not discarding.

If there are things valuable enough to sell, well then...a yard sale! And all the proceeds can go to plant a lovely small tree somewhere, in his and your mother's memory. But as a donation to some charitable cause. Or if they loved dogs, a donation to the local shelter in their honor. Etc.

There's always a loving solution. The only one that's not loving is to require yourself to resolve this perfectly, eh?

Hugs
Hops

lighter:
I didn't specifically promise SF anything, Hops.  Thanks for reminding me I don't have to do this perfectly, for surely I won't.

Tupp,,,,, stuff is tricky.  Esp the emotionally charged stuff.  In a hundred years, what will it matter?  It won't. 

::huge sigh::

Now, to make peace and clear space.

Lighter

lighter:
Well, Step Father gave me his copy of THE NEW BASICS COOKBOOK in one box of stuff... I adore that book, and can't find the copy he game me.  I've been searching for a particular recipe, and found it today....
Pork Chops and Scalloped Potato Casserole....
SO. 
Good.

I'll making it for Teacher Appreciation brunch and dinner with friends this week.  There's heavy cream, garlic, onions, whole grain and Dijon mustards turned into a reduced cream sauce poured over the pork chops and thinly sliced potatoes...... the word alchemy comes to mind..... not what you'd think.  Thyme.... hmm... I thought there was Gruyere, but nope.   There will be two non breakfast items, and mine's one of them.  This one's a lot of work, but definitely a show stopper.

I used to make a potato dish with celery root, and Gruyere...... and cream.... I think.  Onions.  It was good too, but not as good as this one, IMO.

Well.... we're heading into hot weather so now's the time to fire off these warm comfort foods till the fall.

I'll put together food for DD16's graduation ceremony.  I was thinking BBQ pork roast... I make a half pork butt every week for youngest dd who loves it. 

Tabbouleh.

 Maybe Deviled Eggs with mushrooms, and thyme... amazing combination you wouldn't think was great either. 

GF Goat cheese cheese cake flavored with honey, and sea salt.... whatever fruit looks amazing that day on top. 

Against the Grain Bread... the rolls are so good.  Not the bagels or the baguettes..... the rolls. I buy the baguettes if I'm going to break up the bread for bread pudding or for roasted chicken, but the rolls... the best.  The bagels are not great, though they seem to be made of exactly the same product.

Must have really good pickles with BB'Q....... and that can be that.... and jalapeno peppers.

I can transport the meat warm, and everything else cold. 

Anyone have a great recipe for picnic buffet type fare?

Maybe I'll make the potato dish for all three gatherings, and forget the BB'Q.  It's more work. 

Lighter

lighter:
What made me really happy lately....

Perfecting the cook time on a beloved roasted chicken recipe.  DD's response to smelling roast chicken as she goes through the door... eyes closed, hungry after violin practice..... heading for the kitchen.... makes me happy.

Helping my elderly neighbor unload her newly bought gardening supplies.  I haven't seen her out in her yard..... she looks so happy.  I think she's feeling better.... her arthritis keeps her house bound a lot. 
Since her husband's not feeling well, I wrapped a pound cake, gf, and close to sugar free SO YUMMY..... new recipe I'm tinkering with.... and brought it to them with a lovely pork loin.  That made me happy.

Noticing big 6X6 foot patches of clean happy weed free moss in my yard.... they're popping up all over the place!  I've been transplanting moss, and ferns, and pulling weeds steadily..... happily...... and it just rained which makes for the best weed pulling, tansplanting circumstances: )  Happy happy happy.

Ahhhh everything is so green and sun dappled after the rain.  I feel like hugging the just pruned Hemlocks today.

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