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JustKathy:

--- Quote ---As bitter as you may feel about a son who didn't appreciate you or who was treated preferentially or even, is a jerk....it would backfire tremendously if you told your granddaughter
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I have to agree with Hops on this one. As much as I wanted to tell others in my family about the things NM had done to me, I never did, out of fear of it backfiring. My NM also lied to me about everything, including the professions of family members. I was told one uncle was well off because he had mafia ties, another uncle died early because he was a drunk, and an aunt who worked as a prostitute because she was "too stupid" to get a real job. These lies were so over the top (like playing for the NY Rangers), that I questioned them in later years and researched the truth. Your granddaughter will piece these things together one day, I'm sure of it. All of us on this board did, right?


--- Quote ---Gosh, you're probably right, Kathy, that seems to big a coincidence for it to be chance, setting up a Facebook page isn't usually what most people think of doing the day after someone passes!
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Tup, there's even more weirdness to that story. On the day my sister set up her FB page, she also created one for NM, then friended her. This is definitely one for the psychiatry books. No idea what her thought process was here. Did she do it out of grief, as way of bringing NM back? Or did she do it to give her immortality? When my mum got sick, she had the will changed and made my sister sole heir, leaving her the house under the condition that NM's room be preserved, along with her doll collection, like some sort of shrine. That's not enforceable, but my sister is so brainwashed, she'll go along along with it when the time comes (co-father is still alive and living in the house). I'll never know why she created that FB page, but it's odd. There's no content on it, just a blank profile pic and one friend.

Bettyanne:
Hops.....no I would never tell my granddaughter what her father did or does.  One she would not believe me and he would deny it.  She has accused me of so much because of his lies.....I wouldn't even try. 
My therapist says Facebook has caused so many problems. Very unhealthy.  If I write something on Facebook and my granddaughter doesn't agree she will argue with me or if someone else responds she  will tell them what she thinks on my page. This granddaughter is a product of my son and his wife.  She is expecting a baby girl next month.  I ordered five baby items for the baby and had them sent to her.  She never told me she received them but I found on my Belk account that she returned four of the items by sending them back.  Its upsetting but I don't see any of it changing and maybe best I accept her just the way she is....??
Your right friends....it would just backfire.....big time.....not worth it....

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