I feel your pain. My exgirlfriend sucked the life from me, and I am hurting inside because I tried everything to make her feel loved and all I wanted was the intimacy that two people who say they love each other share. Everytime we went out, I was left in the background while she displayed all this posturing to anyone who would listen. At the end of the night, there was no talk of the people she talked to or anything interesting they had to say. After two years of this, I realize that I wasnt really in a relationship, I was in a situation to provide whatever it was she needed at the time. I went with a woman last night who is a friend and we had a blast. I sat and listened to her talk and she was so interested in so many different things. She complimented me and it felt really good, because it felt like the first time that anyone outside my group of friends had noticed that I am a person. My ex made me feel like I was nothing. She made sure of it in the end by just ripping everything about me and twisting everything to make me sound like a loser. I know inside I am a good person, its just hard to know the one you expected to be there for you just dumps you and runs off with someone like you are nothing. I am sorry for rambling, but I am still really shaken by this, but I know after last night that I am not the person she claimed me to be. I wish you the best. If you ever want to chat, my IM is bkkabri100 on yahoo. take care.