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lighter:
Amber:
I feel like I'm on a roller coaster..... one minute I'm hopeful about making improvements and long overdo repairs, enjoying it, letting friends and family enjoy it, and then my stomach flips thinking about wasting time and money. I don't have either to waste any more.
I'm truly conflicted on this one.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Hi Lighter,
The island cottage sounds exotic, lovely, arduous, and exhausting.
I keep fantasizing about your capacity to RENT a place like that when you crave the geography, climate, escape....
Owning sounds like such an absolutely enormous hassle to me. Where do you find the value in it?
(Not saying you should feel the same way...I just don't quite understand the appeal. I love the freedom and escape of being in such a place, though. I just barely keep up with my own wee house and yard, and am hooked on the whole Voluntary Simplicity idea of a better life. Not minimalism, as I'm incapable, but owning less.)
Fill me in, I'll get it!
Hugs,
Hops
sKePTiKal:
Let's play a little "what if" game... the only "rule" is that you're allowed to make the wrong decision, because except for only one of these scenarios you can change your mind (and even then, you still have some "outs" if you change your mind.
What if... you put it on the market & it sells? What benefit would the proceeds be? Would it simplify your life? Would you regret it? How much "improvement" do you think you'd have to do to ask a decent price for it? Have you discussed that with a realtor? You know you can do that - without being obligated to list?
What if... you do list it and it doesn't sell for awhile?
What if... you only do the minimum improvements to list it... and then just keep it -- leaving the option to sell later, open?
Do you know what your liability/loss would be if a storm completely wiped it out? What if that happened? Does that open up some new possibilities?
What if... for some other reason, your health - other's health, the local crime rate, whatever you hang onto it and now it's become a major millstone around your neck... what are your options then?
Just remember: run through the imaginary options... knowing full well you're allowed to make the wrong the decision. NOW, what's the worst that can happen?
Then, revisit what you REALLY WANT.
Hope that helps.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on February 03, 2018, 02:32:19 PM ---D D15 still enjoying the boy's company. I'm astonished by her boundaries and basically stick to what appears to be the 51% rule..... I'm in awe. She's so smart.....truly an old soul, with a tremendous talent for physical comedy. A lovely combination.
On the Little cottage in the Bahamas... It's time for repairs and researching the next steps. Contractor went on day trip and has materials list. Need to order new metal door with tamper proof hinges and an inside screen door. Need to order hurricane shutters for doors and windows still lacking them. Electric has problem but not sure how bad it is.
Basically we get it in shape to sell or keep. Not sure which. We bring an electrician the first planned trip, then ship major supplies for longer trip....at least 2 weeks.
I'm getting along with the contractor fine..... he's basically my father, same make and model. An angry white man with mad skills. Lots of opportunities for boundary work, and he likes me bc I work hard, no whining, beside him.
I admit I worry all that together time could render me one water bug in the ear away from going over the edge, but....
The journey continues.
Lighter
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Lighter, I'm out of touch with what teenagers are up to - what's the 51% rule? :) x
Twoapenny:
I think we will be seeing a Lighter and Skep building company before long :) I love reading all this stuff whilst being aware most of it is going completely over my head :) Lol.
Lighter, I know nothing at all about the situation with this beach house and what the practicalities/financial implications are - but if it's a pain and is mostly just a safe for people to break in to when they want some new stuff, could you cut your losses and just sell, as is, and let someone else sort it all out? It sounds like it would be a lovely holiday home for family and friends whilst you have all the hassle of sorting everything out? I've no idea what your current options are but as I am in my decluttering mode at the moment and ruthlessly shedding years worth of all sorts of things (even photographs - I never thought I'd get rid of photographs but shredding up ones that don't make me smile when I look at them is very satisfying). I'm looking forward to the next instalment on the beach house story, whatever it may be :)
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