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sKePTiKal:
Hops, it's not that I have that much energy or will or drive to do. There are plenty of "slug" days for me, too.

But I've been focusing more on "what it is I want" - and when there's no one offering to do it for me (I don't want to be that dependent ANYWAY) - I just start doing and if it all gets done, excellent. If it doesn't - tomorrow is another day. Too often, Holly will volunteer to choose something off my list that I can absolutely do myself - but she can do it faster. I've been kinda standing aside, because the physical work helps her. But I'll be starting to split kindling again - almost time to fire up the woodstoves.

Going to that concert was a sacrifice - for both Hol & I. She worked without sleep the night before because she had to drive me home - went to work (and it was a very difficult day even though her job itself wasn't hard at all) and then drove home for the weekend. It's a long story and it's a dang good thing my hair can't get any whiter. We're both in "rest & recover" mode. This movie will wrap filming in the middle of Nov. and she'll have to stay there and work a 9 day stretch toward the end.

It's almost holiday season, too. And I'm feeling like I want to shake things up and do something different this year. So.... thinking on it and looking around.

lighter:
Are there any new, clear options, you're considering, Amber?

For holiday choices?

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
Lighter I have no idea about the holidays right now... except that with dealing with so much change the last few years, and this year in particular with Holly moving in... Mike's D, Autumn & the littles (who aren't so little anymore) being so busy that even though we're close now - we see less of them... all the rhythms are different, so I'm thinking how we go about the holidays needs to adapt again too.

Holly might be sailing in December again; she was asked to at any rate. She hasn't decided yet, since there would only be a week after wrapping this movie and when they'd need to take off... and it's right after Thanksgiving.

She is concerned that I don't do enough "fun" stuff. And I don't think our definition of "fun" is the same. I enjoyed the Nick Cave concert. But, getting home at 3 am was really pushing my limits of endurance. My BP the next day was way high; yesterday's was back to it's "normal" again... which is low enough that it's not going to prompt any Rx prescriptions or recommendations.

I catch her doing some "projecting" too. And there are other things, she's trying to "edit" about me... through discussion that are prompting me to ask some questions of myself -- and may have me calling her out on her own internal work, too. But I've put that on a back burner for the time being. We have work to do! And winter is coming.

I FINALLY have the power hooked up in the barn - that opens up a list of things that have been "waiting" for that, to get done. Ricky's been working down the new path for the end of the driveway and I'm thinking about how I'm going to "finish" that - with a gate, etc. He & Ronnie have also asked if it's OK for Ric to make a path up the back ridge for Ronnie to get up there to his blind, with a side by side, like mine.

I've been too busy to get into my office and start pulling it together/organizing/setting up computer & radio equipment... files... I've ordered new furniture for the "bunkroom" - and the auction folks have picked up most of the furniture that I "made do" with when I moved in. Minus a file cabinet that I forgot to have them load. The medical appts kept me busy - away from here, too.

October's calendar page looks worse than what I used to schedule at my old job! Jam-packed full of go here, do this, etc. I fully intend to just SLOW DOWN back to my accustomed pace... and if Hol gets too bored or restless... I'll enjoy the solitude, while she's off filling her experience with crap I couldn't care less about. LOL.

Hopalong:
Wow. First mention of the Hellydays. I may disappear but I'll be back in January!

Amber, what a solid meaningful full productive challenging and interesting life you're living!

That's all I got at the moment but it's lovely to contemplate.

Big hugs,
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Yeah Hops. I know all about the holiday-crap. I think that's why I've always tried to shake things up and do strange, unusual, more FUN things around that time. Take the old feelings about it, and shake the living hell out them in front of societal "expectations" and "norms".

The last couple have been REALLY quiet around here; Hol & Matt came to the beach and it was WARM there that year; the first year after Mike died. Autumn - Mike's D - got the day wrong last year and showed up with the kids early. LOL.

Hol is used to very wacky takes on the holidays. She was there the year we potted a brussel sprout and made it the tree. She got her own wheel of baby swiss cheese that year. And since her birthday is the week after Christmas... we haven't ever been hung up on a special "day" to get together. That's real helpful when kids have multiple sets of parents/grandparents to deal with. So I have my thinking cap on NOW because we'll both end up being homebodies a lot this winter, if the weather forecasts are correct. Might as well GO somewhere; do something totally different. I'm just waiting to hear what she's decided about sailing most of December.

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