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Hopalong:
Tupp, the wedding dress on first date idea is hysterical! If only I had the...eggs.
Would be even funnier if one could hold a straight face and very sincerely say, I'm looking for a casual friend relationship.
You're giving me creative ideas! Wicked you. :lol:
Hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
Hops, I think wacky ideas like that go a long way to putting our anxieties into the proper "slot" of importance. There is a subtle difference between Anxiety and "that little voice of intuition"... and perhaps (I'm talking to myself here) not knowing the difference between them, for a fact, is one of the reasons for paralysis or self-limitation.
Risk aversity is another thing involved. "Once burned twice shy" is a truism because it IS true, to an extent. We tend to "learn" to try to avoid mistakes by looking/listening for those signs... and the fear-factor of reliving a past ugly situation piles on top of the intrinsic issues of "I don't matter" (or what I want doesn't matter) conditioning.
But I've been involved in total "over-thinking" & "over-analyzing" space with Hol now long enough that I recognize that it might be possible for her to "see" and decide very quickly what to do - as fast as she processes multi-levels of experiential information, but for me.... my feet get stuck in the emotional mud and creates an additional problem. That of needing a good bit of time to feel I've understood the option and know what I want and to have thought through and weighed the available options and the inherent consequences of those options.
"Flow" or "The Zone" is the total opposite of that space... but that is a solitary experience for me and is impossible with lots of other people around.
Hopalong:
Your flow is YOU and I imagine this adjustment is pretty hard, Amber.
Loads of love involved but you still have your nature and your needs.
I think you're right about a sometime blur between Anx and intuition.
I've gotta critique somebody's story and then prepare to go spend a
few hours with the Magnolia lady I used to help...she asked me to come
back and help a bit as she too is moving to Assisted Living. I kind of
dread it because she's so chaotic, so I'll need to have a firm setting
of serenity. If she triggers me too much I'll "be unavailable" for more.
Hope today goes well and you're not feeling bossed around.
You don't deserve that. Support and company is one thing.
love,
Hops
lighter:
I'm sorry to read you missed your trip, and had a panic attack, ((Hops.))
I've been w/o signal, on a dairy farm, and need to catch up with the board.
Sister comes in tomorrow from Canada, and the kids have not been keeping house for 10 days I've been gone.
Will check Tupps thread, do some stuff, then come back to see what everyone's up to.
Again, I'm so sorry you missed your trip, and had that scare, Hops.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Thanks, Lighter.
Good of you to check in...farm time sounds heavenly.
And sounds like you've got lots to catch up on at home,
with kids and company.
Enjoy it ALL! Safe re-entry.
hugs
Hops
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