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Hopalong:
I think your initial question is a wise one.
There just can't be competition for healing better than someone else heals.
Humans and their wounds are as different as faces. So are lives and experiences.
Just as we needn't judge others we also need to not judge ourselves....
If someone's "moved on" then maybe they have and good on them.
If someone's still at work on healing then good on them too.
If someone's BRAGGING about having utterly healed from really bad things, then I do wonder. If someone's GRATEFUL for having healed then they ain't bragging.
I just don't think there's a secret formula that only special people know. I think we're very complex and very individual creatures and acceptance is easier and simpler for some than it is for others. And the others aren't "lesser" if that's true.
Hugs
Hops
lighter:
I finally got to read all responses on this thread... so grateful for it, Amber. Nice.
I'm still focused on the muscle testing/brain integration to trace back, and find initial threads of dis-ease in the brain, body and energetic systems.
I don't believe the primary indicator for successful treatment is how a person identifies with their abuse, or their abuser. I believe it has more to do with the person's ability to self reflect, and observe their inner world without turning away, distracting themselves or avoiding pain at all costs, which is how humans seem to deal with pain, and move through their worlds, IME.
We can hold belief systems that harm, and limit our ability to look inside, and observe our inner worlds. Whether those belief systems, imbalances, blockages, negative coping strategies will persist depends, IMO, on whether we can come to a place where we learn to suspend judgement. amd endure discomfort/pain/shame/guilt, etc. IMO.
Defensive personality types, who deflect blame, and have fragile egos shattered by any hint of shame will struggle more than people who believe everything is their fault, IME.
Trauma comes off in layers, as I've experienced it. The deeper the trauma, the earlier the trauma, trauma involving bonds with caregivers, ongoing early trauma, etc will be deeper and more complicated than single incident trauma experienced later in life.
Trauma that paralyzes us, makes us feel powerless, and at the mercy of, is different than trauma we feel we can act through or on.
Nobody can tell someone else what makes sense to them, regarding how we heal, or learn to pay attention to that part of our lives.
Every factor involved.... spiritual, emotional, physical, biochemical, physiological, neurological, energetic, and support systems we have, or don't have in place, will present threads to symptoms, and causes that lead to layer after layer of work we can do, or not do, IME.
I don't think intelligence is a primary factor.... at least that's not been my experience that the most intelligent people do the work, or can do the work. I've seen intelligent people work well with mental health professionals, and very intelligent people sneer at the idea, and make a mockery of therapy while careening into desperate situations, and death.
Some belief systems appear to be held in our unconscious minds. We might feel strongly that we're ready to change or ready to choose new things, but not realize that a part of us just can't get there. If our reticular activation system feels it's kept us safe up to this point, and can continue to keep us alive this way, then it might not see the need to change anything we otherwise feel is negatively effecting our lives, and we're sure we need to change. The RAS might hold strong, and keep us locked in old patterns until we figure out how to address it, and re boot that belief.... engage the frontal lobe, and shift all the layers of belief within us so they correspond.
Every time I witness a brain balance, it always always leads down one rabbit hole after another, never the way intended, or anticipated, and always always leads to a starting point... a thread to pull, and follow, and trace to deeper layers of trauma, as subsequent layers receive attention.
That's enough of my 2 cents for now.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
New development:
Back when we had all the company, I was keeping myself occupied by sorting out/arranging all my art crap that I've hauled around for 20 some years or more, in the studio. I came across a sketch I made one afternoon of Mike - around the same time, I made the "farm mirage" drawing.
The likeness, for as much time as I put into it was pretty strong. (circa 2005)
So it got put up on the wall, across the room from where we sit & socialize. Along with a painting I did in '78 - before any formal art training - that shouldn't "work" because of the rules I didn't follow/broke that DOES work. Just been "looking" at both of them. The painting, I'd like to change the composition of the canvas size, but basically duplicate.
And 2 nights ago, I pulled out the drawing and started working on the hand gesture. Worked till about 2 am. And midnight, last night. Looks like it's going to become a finished drawing. It's fascinating, that I can remember details about his body structure; the specific haircut he had then - but if I have 3 things to do today and make myself a note - by the time I've written the first 2 down, I've forgotten the 3rd. LOL.
Anyway, the drawing seems like it's some kind of catharsis or exorcism of "something"; it's not about him at all, either. It's something about "me" that is getting dealt with.
lighter:
It's nice to picture you rediscovering these pieces of art...... appreciating them... diving back into them, Amber.
Hopalong:
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