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Hopalong:
Thanks, Tupp! Was patting myself on the back so hard it's a wonder I still have shoulder blades.
The Pres of our "Village" startup I met, along with five others, not long before the pandemic. Went to two meetings before it hit. I had learned about the idea of helping elders who: don't want to or can't move to a "retirement community" -- helping them live at home for as long as possible with a strong network of volunteers for all sorts of things. Rides to the doctor (accompanying them in to take notes if requested), small home chores or repairs, help with computers or electronic devices -- thinning a flower bed or walking a dog for that matter. Changing overhead light bulbs was one somebody came up with. Whatever they need, if a volunteer can match it, they'll have the visit/connection/friendship etc with a caring person who wants to help them age at home more easily. Only NON-medical services from background-checked, trained volunteers. Probably most of our volunteers will be older but quite able, but the range for joining as members is 55+. When we interview prospective volunteers, we ask what possible services we could list. Some can drive but not lift, some love to help organize, some are bilingual, some are very comfortable with electronics, or dogs. All depends on who decides to join. Each member request for service will be matched against our volunteers' skills and availability.
It's been really successful -- 300 Villages so far. It's just a huge need. Too many elders who live in the community (rather than a "senior silo") are isolated, too many have no family to help them, etc etc. There's been a lot of national research on it and the gap in support is clear -- as is the difference it makes to all involved.
The original small group of folks I met had splintered during the pandemic: one's spouse was declining, others were just burned out. It's a LOT of work. But one, our Pres, revived it all about two years ago and I climbed on board when she asked me. I had loved the concept the moment I heard of it (perfect demographic myself) and she is amazing. Long career as a national leader in midwifery, setting up professional programs in two countries, still on accreditation and review boards. Remarkable woman. I find it fascinating that she built structures to support people in community for the start of life, and now she's doing the same for people in the later chapters.
We've grown to an 8-member Board (moi included) and are launching the volunteer and member drive now, with publicity, public information sessions, and the brochures and flyers. Media is interested, and we have an excellent Advisory Board: Dr.-head of geriatrics and a lovely woman in a high post in nursing at the university hospital, former CFO of the whole region's largest senior services board, present CEO of the same, and a few more. A med student organization is interested, likewise a nursing student program -- not in giving medical services, but just volunteering like everybody in order to get to know the needs of older people living in the community. (They'll learn about needed health services for their public health work and from visiting older folks in their own homes.)
We'll find out when we find out, but I have a feeling it'll take off here. ML, the Pres, is indefatigable, can multi-task like a maniac, and I can keep cranking out friendly, clear PR and documentation etc. She asks me to do small speeches with her because she's a PhD Power Point sort, very skilled at presenting data, and I'm just all passionate about how this society values or discards elders. Plus, I'm a perky public speaker and for some reason audiences warm to me. Must be the dimples, or sometimes I'm funny.
Whew. Gotta try to help THIS old woman get her laundry done!
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Hops
Twoapenny:
It's a great idea. I really like (with projects like that) the way that people can swap skills, almost without realising it - ie, the chap comes round to change the lightbulb, and while he's there gets a cuppa with some home made cookies, or the older person has stories to share about some event that particularly interests them (something they went to years ago, something like that). Or they can swap gardening tips, or the older person knows how to get that particular stain out of that T shirt they mention they now use for work because of the mark on it, do you know what I mean? Just that general exchange of what it is to be human that I think has been lost through TV and social media and all these external sources which, can be good in some ways, but which I think have had a negative effect in others. Whatever else it brings beyond the practical support, it's a brilliant idea, and shows what a bit of organisation can achieve.
lighter:
I'm so happy for you, ((Hops!!))
What an accomplishment and will make such a difference in your community!
You did good: )
Lighter
Hopalong:
Thanks, Lighter!
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Hops
Hopalong:
Happy update on my relationship to the UU congregation:
Y'all might remember that I've done "lay sermons" now and then in the past. Today was my 7th (my 6th was also about the environment and 13 years ago). I was anxious about being up for it, being compelling and engaging, etc...and after stroke and health wobbles and ER visits I feared I might have a wave of something in the pulpit. Did for a moment or two, but it passed.
Thought about it, kind of prepping my internal ground, for a week or so, and wrote it in 8 hours yesterday. "A Personal Planet" was the title. Anyway, there I was and it went very well. I included humor, love, compassion (for planet and for self) and a recurring thing about contemplating the differences between need and craving when it comes to consumerism, which is basically what's destroying the earth. You can consume stupid plastic, fuel including the most polluting (air travel) without really connecting the dots.
And it kinda rocked. I felt validated and affirmed for the deepest part of me -- being a writer, and knowing and valuing the oral tradition. Poems and sermons (in my case, very agnostic, no deity involved) aren't very far apart. So I'm feeling verrrrrrry grateful. And sort of welcomed back (not that anybody was not welcoming before, but I felt alienated for a long time after the previous Nminister)....new minister is kind, smart, and does his job really well. I was really happy when he asked me if I could do it today.
I think I'll go back as often as I can, and build new connections with old friends and new UUs. It's still the best chance I have to feel part of an extended family I do love, and I'd be a fool to let that belonging wither. That, plus the local "Village" project, anchor me in belonging to groups that feel meaningful and bigger than me.
I'm just happy. Didn't hurt my ego, either, to have a lot of people come up to shake my hand and tell me they really liked it. I felt affirmed, acknowledged and fulfilled. The music director said he's going to push for me to be invited to do it again. Wow.
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a happy Hops
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