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Hopalong:
Picnic was lovely. We went over to my neighbor's to taste her beta batch of a new spicy chutney she'll be marketing through a local cidery. Yum. Then had our tapas and wine and wound up listening to my friend's CD...she is gone now (killed in an awful intentional accident by a homicidal/suicidal man escaping his murder of his gf, years ago now). But her extraordinary voice and talent remain and M just fell in love with her music.
Tonight we had a lovely dinner out and won't see each other until I arrive in SF a week from now. We have been so much more relaxed with each other since seeing those two potential couple-Ts, it's odd. I think we were stuck and needed that third party help...so we both seem much more peaceful and even more committed. Feeling very good about it all right now.
Hugs
Hops
lighter:
Well....
your post started my mouth to watering.
Chutney, and cider, and spicey, oh my: )
Then I was yanked sideways by the music piece, and loss of your lovely friend. I find people want to deny and minimize violence in our culture, particularly for women and children, and then it's touching your life, infringing, engulfing, taking lives of people you know and love. So frustrating, and in many cases avoidable, IME. Some voices have no power in this culture. Will you share your friend's voice with the board, Hops?
You sound relaxed, and comfortable right now. It's nice to read you're finding your stride with M.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
I hope you enjoy San Fran, Hops. You might see things you don't so much enjoy, if the media reports are to be believed. (I remain Skeptical of everything I read these days. And I need a whole factory to separate out the scarce facts from opinions.)
I think you'll have a lovely adventure! I want one too. :( But I'm on hold for that now.
Hopalong:
Hi Lighter,
She was a much-beloved founding member of a well-known acoustic group that did very sophisticated, jazzy, bluegrassy folk. I knew her through another circle. We weren't the closest friends but I did invite her to co-create a service at my church that was pretty amazing. I did a sermon on loneliness and she did the music. Congregation was absolutely spellbound. Later she moved [away] to direct a large chorus that traveled the world. People from all over came for her service.
Her end was beyond tragic. He had just killed his gf and intentionally crossed the highway and drove headfirst into her car (to take himself out, they think). And so, took her life as well. She had just come back for a meeting about possibly reuniting with the original group and was on her way to town in her rental car.
Her voice will be around forever; she was much loved and respected and recordings remain. Some aren't easy to find though. Her best album was called _______. Extraordinary.
hugs
Hops
Hopalong:
Thanks, Amber. I love SF. Worked in Silicon Valley and spent a good bit of time there.
I know social problems have worsened but I'm not shocked. Just sad to see.
There's transparency there...when all the neglect and sorrow are visible in the open.
I'm more comfortable with that sad ugliness than with ghettos and gated enclaves
that protect us from seeing what legacy inequalities, indifference to mental illness
and the results of abuse, and viewing many human beings as discardable has done.
Happy for the tech-wealthy who are so enjoying one of the most magical and
beautiful places in the country. Too bad about everyone else, who can't afford to
keep living there any more. And not because they don't work hard.
Luckily for M's sons, they are successful and well off, in a lovely town about an
hour from SF. All the best of the Bay and Sonoma, none of the rest. I'm genuinely
happy for them and looking forward to exploring that lovely area with M.
But mostly, to cradling a new baby girl I may be lucky enough to love and know
for years to come!
Hugs
Hops
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