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sKePTiKal:
G, I don't think this is off topic at all. There IS a connection about feeling healthy in our bodies and radiating our inner beauty outwardly, without conforming to "standards". We talk often about feeling comfortable in our own skins, right?

So, acceptance of our age, stage in life, looks, how we physically feel... and understanding the basics of how to creatively design our appearance to the rest of the world, to reflect who we are inside are all relevant. Self respect - not just a mental version of that but the confidence in ourselves emotionally and physically, is almost visible to other people if you observe closely. Not matter what you're wearing.

Lighter - wide leg jeans are making a comeback too!

Hopalong:
PS, G--
I've got pretty sensitive skin and can't afford fancy organic foundation etc.
I've found that the few drops of organic pure aloe vera gel (topped with same of coconut oil when it's dry) do a really good job of protecting my skin from any reaction to other stuff. Per dose, both are really cheap.

Hops

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: Garbanzo on July 18, 2019, 07:38:04 PM ---Thanks Hops & Skep. (smile emoji here) Funny about your grandma wardrobe Skep, I think if you are wearing skinny jeans how Grandma could it be heheheh. I don't own skinny jeans if anything squeezes my butt cheeks together I'm just going to be in a bad mood. Just a short reply cause I'm in need of more coffee at the moment and I don't wanna hijack the thread too much. There is something about appearances though, if one isn't quite living up to it then it can be a source of shame I guess. 
In all of it there is the question of effort and attention what aspects of our life need more time and effort health beauty?

I mean there is something about how each stage of a female life one has to figure out how do I be 20, how do I be 30, how do I be 40, how do I be 50. (the stages of my mother's life seem to be defined by what men she is with) I'm just questioning myself again do I act like my age. It's not so much that I "don't feel beautiful" because I've come to a pragmatic opinion about that. It's more just questioning NOW what am I supposed to be doing. And the older we get it's like do we just go WITH the flow or is that "giving up". You know the "letting oneself go". Also employers... do they expect older women to try harder to appear youthful or put together or whatever. I feel like all of a sudden I am supposed to look classier and wealthier than I am because seems to me that is what defines older women, they have arrived. Mature, made it. I might have an older body but maybe emotional parts of me are lagging behind and I don't want to act like a 16 year old in a 40 year old body or something.
There is something more cheerful about women who make some effort. When I think about my coworkers who do make an effort and those that do not. It doesn't always effect their career though as much as one might think. I saw women get canned who put more effort into their looks than some who don't. Sometimes it doesn't matter. Can I just rant that the beauty industry has added eye lid primer, eye lash primer, face primer, lip primer and setting sprays as extra layers. I don't remember these existing before.

I think Hops mentioned Queer eye which I had never watched so I went and binged on them, they are great fun to watch. So I thought well maybe I should try makeup again, maybe I'm wrong about it....I tried makeup it burns my skin, end of story I guess. No big deal. Another season is released on Netflix now so I have to watch it, I'm addicted.

Honestly I feel like an old granny and I'm in my 40's. Am I still supposed to feel feminine, pretty, sexy etc. etc. I sort of want to be old and comfortable.


 This has nothing to do with the thread. Sorry Lighter.

Lighter your post about jeans reminds me of this vid, probably it's out of style as style comes and goes like every three months. I've always thought this would be fun to try something like this diy patched jeans:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwOveedkVko

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G, that's so interesting because I think woman have defined themselves through their men for such a long time (you mention your mum being defined by a man; my mum's the same) and also have defined themselves through their looks/figure/ how well they keep house and so on.  It does become a bit of a "well how do we define ourselves now?"  Given that a lot of us interrupt our careers to have children or to care for other relatives, or have to take jobs because they're available rather than because it's doing what we love.  Where does our definition come from instead?  It's an interesting question :)

On the topic of daily routine and beauty products I am heading towards a less is more approach for everything; I try to use products that don't contain chemicals if possible and I'm trying to get away from plastic packaging as well so at the moment it's a shampoo bar and soap bar and that's it.  I've got moisturising cream that I'm usually too lazy to put on :)

Make up always makes me look like a cross dresser; I've never been able to put it on and it doesn't seem to suit my face, plus I'm colour blind so that combination is always a bad look!  Lol, plus I can't be bothered to wash it off again at night (although I read that Dolly Parton deliberately leaves hers on in case there's a fire and she has to run outside :) ).  Clean is about as much as I aim for; my bane in life is facial hair which I've yet to find an echo friendly yet effective way of getting rid of.  If I didn't pluck I would look like Captain Caveman :) xx

sKePTiKal:
Sally Hansen wax strips make plucking less of a chore, G. It comes with a small bottle of oil to dissolve the wax after, that seems to last forever. Then I follow up with an astringent - witch hazel - usually. I care less how it looks and more how it feels. I don't want to be the bearded lady!

My face is very far from "perfect". I have one eye that's very hooded and even kinda droopy. That means the eyebrows aren't level either. My ears don't line up, so the arms on glasses need a LOT of adjustment. LOL. I'm off kilter about half a bubble. But ya know what? That's probably 'coz of me inside... all the crap I've been through... so it's the gen-u-wine article. I think the only reason I agonized for so long, trying to look like someone else, was because I wanted to hide; just disappear into the masses of look-alikes all striving for the "fashion of the day".

You know I wouldn't be content in a crowd like that. LOL. The nail that sticks up, hollaring - but I'm ME, dammit! So that's a battle I don't much think about anymore. I'm clean (most of the time), neat, but not fancy. Simple. Until I start thinking about dressing for a guy... complication #560. Then, I get all weird over it again. Good thing I started Buck out, with my normal farm work "uniform"... and oddly enough, that wasn't a problem or obstacle. But if I'd tried too hard? Maybe show more cleavage? That actually might've been off-putting.

So I basically have adapted Holly's mantra - which is wear what want to, be as comfortable as I wanna be, and if that means plain old face - so be it. It's maybe a version of "when I am OLD, I'll wear purple".

Meh:
Two and Skep, you gals are so funny.

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