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Mindfulness and codependence thread
lighter:
Third, important T reminder....
resistance, to what is, typically is where my struggles live.
Understanding that, is easy, IME.
Convincing, my younger parts, is another matter.
Yesterday, a holistic Lighter felt the hypocrisy, and irony, of suffering drama queen men, while enduring being unjustly labeled irrational/dramatic/sensitive, etc. She was pacing in circles, expecting apologies and something better, going forward.
I'm a friggin callous to the world, most of the time. Unflappable, focused on the mission, bending and placating grown baby men to keep the programs on track.... sometimes grown baby women too, of course, but the mission is the focus.
I've embraced the reality of mysoginy and acceptance around it, however difficult.
I think "my people" are those who don't complain, whine, throw monkey wrenches, or ask for help, as default settings.
What does that mean?
Our wounded children likely have zero expectations of getting their needs met by others.....maybe.
I'm taking baby girl pug for follow up eye appointment.... it's still red.
Hopalong:
In terms of mindfully calming or de-stressing oneself, I've made a ridiculous discovery.
ASMR? Hope I got the acronym right. Anyway, a year back-ish, watching videos (maybe it started with Downton, dunno) I found myself toe-curlingly pleased in a full-body way with the sound of...drumroll...
Tires slowly rolling over gravel.
Can't fathom why. But every time I hear a nice stretch of that sound I smile, relax and just feel whole-body peace and pleasure.
Hope that doesn't mean I'll develop an unrequited crush on someone's driveway.
Anybody into ASMR-ish stuff?
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
It's smells for me, Hops. Fresh brewed coffee. Nag Champa incense. Damp, fresh, rich dirt. Chicken & dumplin's on the stove... frying bacon.
Hopalong:
OOOOOOO. Niiiiice, Amber!
Now that you mention it, doesn't frying bacon sound a bit like slow tires on gravel? I forget. (I guess for me the wheels/gravel sound would be coming from some distance, through a window.)
Rabbit hole. Great-smelling, crunchy-sounding rabbit hole. It's so weird.
LOL
Hops
lighter:
I really like the new age relaxation stuff, Hops. It makes me want to meditate, stretch and focus.
Lovely smells, for me, typically run to pine, peppermint and, yes, coffee/roasting chickens.
Lighter
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