The white paint will do wonders, as will being able to get things dry! Yep, a tough road for some, self sabotage is something I know far more about that I would like and it's painful to watch kids push back against the people or things that could help them. But it's a path that has to be walked, I guess. I can remember going to a friend's house for tea when I was young - probably about ten? And her parents were so nice to each other and their kids, their house was so calm and friendly, everything about it was so good - and it felt so wrong to me, it was like nothing I'd ever known. So yep, I can imagine that the current situation has been a big shift for him. Good that the new place is ready quickly, though, and maybe as things settle with him he'll be able to maintain friendship with D and be part of your extended circle. I'll keep my ears peeled for more laundry room updates! xx