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Bettyanne:
Hi Friends....
Life sure has gotten harder lately......
My husband Bill had a chemo treatment we were told low dose......well if you think one treatment of low dose would do?
a few hours after this low dose..(what a joke)
he didn't know who he was......
He got to the hospital by ambulance
Didn't know who he was!!!!!!!!!
took a heart attack
was being feed through his nose
His arms tied down....
OMG
Mind you this was one low dose treatment
excuse me this is bullsh**....sorry just have to let off some steam
He was in ICU for 16 days.....he couldn't walk without a walker afterwords
Doctor explained you just don't know how people will react to treatment??
really after two years of chemo.....
Well I guess there is nothing more they can do for him now...
He is feeling better because he is off chemo
Only God knows at this point ......
I just feel so so bad for what happened to my sweet loving husband who has always been here for me....
supported me through so many years of abuse by my mother....that never ended.  She was 100 at death
now dead 7 years.....the first years of my life to have peace.  I heard the other day from a woman she worked with in a real estate office my NM was the secretary until she died.  This woman told me she told all the women in the office how awful or bad I was she told the Boss man to the point he hated my guts.....That really gets to me when she basically did nothing for me.  But she did go to church/mass all the time so being sarcastic here that made her a SAINT.....good luck where you are now..... so called mother.
My T told me that she gave birth to me and that's where it ended.

Thanks dear friends....
Love, Bettyanne

lighter:
Bettyanne:

I'm sending you strength, courage and permission to focus on yourself and Bill.  Your mother is gone 7 years now.  She can't say or do anything to you anymore. 

Spend your time with Bill.... no regrets.  Give nothing to your mother you don't mind giving.

(((Bettyanne and family)))

Bill shielded you as best he could. He wouldn't want your mother haunting any more of your days. 

Lighter

Twoapenny:
I'm so sorry that Bill is having such a hard time, BettyAnne, and you as well.  Sometimes I think doctors overstep the mark with treatment and should be more open about the negative possibilities and give people the option to chose.  I'm sorry this last bout has made him so unwell and put you through so much.

My mum is exactly the same as yours; she has turned many people against me and convinced them I'm evil and have done heinous things.  I think it's quite a common N trait - they portray themselves as victims, maybe to cover up the way they behave?  I don't know.  But it is hard when you find out people who don't even know you dislike you because of what they've been told about you.  The only thing I can say is that other people's opinions don't matter.  You know the truth, and so do the people you chose to have in your life.  People do find it hard to believe that someone who can be so nice at work can be so awful at home.  My own mum did exactly the same thing - two different personalities, a public one and a private one.  It's hard to cope with.  But the people who know you love you and know how you really are.  The other people might discover the truth in years to come, but if they don't, it doesn't matter.  They're not important in your life.

I hope Bill is at least more comfortable now.  Do let us know how you're both getting on.  I think of you a lot. xx xx

Bettyanne:
Thank you Lighter and Two a Penny,
We went to see Endocronologist today I wasn't very impressed at all.  I said I was so upset that the last chemo treatment did this to Bill.  He says well it could be just Bill's his age....give me a break now...I wasn't born yesterday.  As I said before the above what took place....destroyed his thyroid as well.....well nothing I can do.....I am going to call a lawyer tomorrow to see what they say?? it can't hurt even if they say nothing.....
As my therapist said my NM gave me nothing......no family really and one of the reason I had six kids....six great kids really.  The 3 sons live nearby and two of them are great helping all the time.....
Thank you for your concern and support it means a lot to me.....and makes me feel like having sisters here....so grateful for that....
I do want to say because my NM was the main person in my life she did a lot of damage.....such a control freak and I know all the other stuff that goes along with it......since she lived up to 7 years ago.....I am realizing all the crap I should have said get lost lady or get myself out of this woman life ......she never stopped right to the very end....My therapist said when you have been abuse from birth its very hard to separate from......when they try to remove kids they want to go right back..so I will be trying to get past it.....
The abuse was really bad......let me say this one.....she opened all my Wedding presents and wrote on every envelope what they gave and she made a pile of cash and checks....my T said in 30 years of being a T she never had this one....
Thank you both again.....Love, Bettyanne

lighter:
So sorry, Bettyanne.  For everything your mother did to you, for what she didn't do for you.  You deserved a good mother and it sucks yours couldn't be that.

I hope the attorney business helps you feel empowered and less at the mercy of. 

::sending healing light, strength and courage::.

Lighter

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