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Hopalong:
I hear you, Lighter.
If the drive-through testing is administered by public health or a hospital, that's reliable.
No difference if you get a nose swab in your car or in an office.
Good luck, please keep us posted.
hugs--
Hops
Hopalong:
Comprehensive article about and reviews of most OTC Covid tests:
https://cen.acs.org/analytical-chemistry/diagnostics/covid-home-test-kit-review/99/i20
lighter:
Thanks, guys.
We ended up discussing tests with the pharamist who recommended the test we bought.
DD19 tested Negative for Covid and will re test in 24 hours to make sure we didn't test too early. Tomorrow will be day 8 after exposure.
I feel deeeeply relieved and ready to get back to life.
Lighter
Phyll:
I reached an agreement with W regarding this outdoor funeral service I plan to attend. I plan to quarantine 5 to 7 days week and test before I come home. He has been very concerned as he takes prednisone which blocks his immune response. He got a 3rd vaccine this week, but with each shot he experienced no side effects indicative of gaining immunity. I am fully vaccinated, but others in my family are not. I don't think any or all of them will be wearing masks.
I actually look forward to some time away from W. Packing a journal, art supplies and some adult coloring books, swim suit, hiking boots and poles.
The place I am staying is a lodge in a resort with an outside entrance, kitchenette, outdoor grill and fire pit. I had planned to stay one night initially, as the service is over 3 hours away from home. I called to extend my stay. Unfortunately, they only have one additional night available. I am going ahead in hopes they get a cancellation.
If not, my family cabin is nearby so I might stay there. No one has been there all month. W is against me doing that as it is a little rough with my mobility not 100%; plus there is no electricity, and I use a CPAP for sleep apnea. I can take the battery I keep charged in my bedroom which would work for up to 3 nights. I don't want to tell W because all we do is fight and I cannot stand the idea of another conflict. I don't know if I can get the battery in the car without him knowing it. It is also pretty damn heavy.
I have 2 other options, but the isolation may not be as easily maintained. I am sure my brother whose wife died would let me stay by him too, but that is where his kids from Texas visited. Not sure if they will be gone yet. He has a garage with a bedroom, space in his finished basement, and the "She shed" he built his wife. My other brother has a camper at a campsite nearby - I am sure I can stay there but again, it is not as isolated.
I could book a different hotel but then technically there would be more in person contacts.
I will wait to talk with my family about the options after the service. It will also give me an opportunity to tell them what has been happening and gain some support. I hate being dishonest with Wayne. I am generally straight forward with him but I just do not have the energy this time.
With the testing, I am wondering how long it takes to get results if I go through a drive-through testing site. Or, if it would be easier to buy the test. I welcome any thought you may have on my plans.
Hopalong:
Honest and direct? I wouldn't go.
That's because a variant we don't understand yet is so transmissable even N95s don't offer certain protection. That's also because I'm a coward (with no family ties) who avoids every possible chance I'll get it. Fingers crossed, but even outdoor gatherings is worrying experts now. This plague is a beast.
I think what you're seeking is understanding and support in your marital crisis. Exposing yourself to unvaccinated family, with precautions, is one way to seek out support.
But I do wish you could go find it in person where you live. A group that meets outdoors, a counselor who'll Zoom all you need in that lovely upstairs retreat. That could change everything for you. (I was amazed at how well therapy went last winter on Zoom -- couple awkward sessions and then it was more impactful than I'd ever imagined it could be on video).
I think it's the support you so deservedly need, not the risky exposure.
But I completely understand why you're pulled in that direction, Phyll. I have come to a different place since my family is no longer a source of genuine support. So I look for it where I live now.
FWIW, I support you entirely in whatever you decide to do!
hugs
Hops
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