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lighter:
Hops:
Your post felt like exhaling.....like discovering I don't have to hold my breath.
Interesting.
Lighter
Hopalong:
Wonderful.
It's perhaps the biggest mistake I made, so of course I got THAT lesson. Too late but I still received it and understand it to be part of being fully human, and strong. It's even a basic need-to-learn-this-myself in order to thrive.
It is part respect and part faith, to stand by (or better, get busy with your own business) and let another experience disappointment, pain or loss, without trying to take all the injuries for them. That's not sacrificial, it's confusing your self with another person's self. (Happens to the nicest people. Literally.)
Let them fumble and fail or be inefficient or unwise (depending on circumstances of course). Actually, don't "let" them...respect them. "What do you think you'll do?" (I learned waaaay too late) is a much more helpful question than "Do you know how to do this the right way?"
hugs
Hops
lighter:
I texted my contractor yesterday. I wanted to know if he could finish the upstairs bed and bathrooms by mid November.
He didn't text back till the evening and his blood pressure is "out of control."
I'm not surprised, bc he had that odd day.
I hope he's ok.
Lighter
lighter:
Contractor texted today. Feels better, but not good. Wants to know what I want done before company mid November at lake. Will try to help him, fetch, carry and shield his health.
Lighter
lighter:
Contractor's BP is 135/120 as of last ni ght. He texted he wanted to work today, but holy cow......he went to the doc instead, of course. I think he's been in denial about how ill he is.
The doc is changing his meds, which makes me feel crazy. Finding the cause should be the priority, imo THEN treatment plan, but that's not how it's going.
My nutritionist said he should have kidneys checked, heart checked and lungs checked, but that's 3 specialists and didn't seem hopeful the cause would be considered. Only treating symptoms.
My head stings when I think about his BP being that high.
Lighter
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