Serena, and Guest.
'psychological orphan'
I never thought of this term but when I think of feelings I get from my mother this fits.
The unloved orphanI was an unexpected ferternal twin, so I often thought of myself as unwanted. I was often reminded how difficult it was for my mother to take care of us as infants.
She brings it up over and over again and again to this day. Unreal.
Not saying it wasn't difficult, but to tell me like I'm supposed to take some kind of guilt for the trouble. I always feel like I need to appoligize.
I guess she never felt like she got the recognition from my father for her hard work. I don't know.
My mother has no connection with my twin brother. He lives far away. He left home and went into the navy at 18. However, he has never had to be around for the Mother and 3 sisters treatment. (I feel like Cinderella )
I guess She didn't get the bonding thing with us because we were in the incabator for the first 6 weeks.
What ever the reason we have no relationship with our mother...
I just stopped trying all together. No making something happy out of it.
Just makes me sad, but this is just the way it is.....Only renting
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