A quick question

[Lara]

I've blocked my ex from my e-mail. Can anyone tell me...if he tries to send me an email in future, will the screen tell him that I have blocked him, or just that his message is undeliverable?

Thanks,
Lara.

[Anonymous]

Hi Lara,
I've just tested this on my computer with the 2 addresses that I have. A blocked message gets dumped straight into the deleted file and nothing other than the normal 'sent' shows up on the senders address.
In other words, he won't know that you've blocked him, (unless your computer's different!).
Hope this helps.

[Lara]

Kind Guest,
Thank you so much for testing that out for me.

I'm not sure how I feel about it. In some ways I would have liked him to know that I had blocked him,to make him think about how he had offended me ....yes I know,pigs might fly.

I know I'm still in the process of getting over this relationship;ideally I shouldn't give a toss whether he tries to email me or not, or about how he would feel if he did know I was blocking him. God this takes a long time!

I really appreciate your kindness,

Sincerely,
Lara.

[Anonymous]

lara,
I'm sure you've thought of this but, you can always send him an e-mail telling him you have blocked his. If you don't he will assume you are getting his e-mails and ignoring him. Don't know whether you had considered that. Either way you are refusing supply to an addict, so he won't like either one. Do the one that helps you put him as far in your rear view mirror as possible.

mudpuppy

[Lara]

Thank you Mudpuppy for your thoughtfulness. The reason why I don't feel able to tell him that I've blocked him, is that I used to be so addicted to keeping in contact with him,that I fear the feeling that I would be losing control of my actions again, if I ever initiate any contact with him.
Don't know if that makes sense!

It is also taking me some time to come to terms with the fact that I will never see his name on my inbox list again,altho I do know that rationally there is absolutely no reason why I should want to. Still confused I guess.

Thank you again,
Sincerely,
Lara.

[Kaz]

Hi Lara,

I fear the feeling that I would be losing control of my actions again, if I ever initiate any contact with him.

I know that feeling but realised eventually that I didn't have to tell my exN of my decisions anymore.
You've blocked him for your own sake, doesn't matter whether he knows or not.
You're doing fine.
Kaz (first guest).

[Lara]

Dear Kaz,
Thank you for two things;first for reminding me that I don't owe my ex anything, including information;and second for telling me that I'm 'doing fine.'

That meant a lot to me today.
Thanks again,

Lara.