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October

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« Reply #60 on: May 05, 2005, 07:39:54 AM »
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Oh, and I think you are being a wonderful mother to C, handling the situation beautifully, I wish I had had a mother like you. When you told how you validated C when she saw her dad put alcohol up his jumper really moved me.

Oh, wallpaper! When we took down the awful mirror squares in our hallway back home, we found that the previous tenant had been to lazy to wallpaper behind it, so there was a big square of flowered wallpaper behind it! Good thing we had already bought a big mirror to go there!


Thanks, SH  (((((hugs))))).  I wish I had had a mother like me too.   :lol:  :lol:   Or any kind of a mother, come to that ...   :?

When I wallpapered my kitchen I took all the cupboards down off the walls to paper behind them.  Years and years ago.  What a daft thing to do!!  Mind you, it would have been just as hard to paper round them, to be honest.   :lol:   Can you imagine papering around all the furniture, and never being able to move it again!!!!!   :lol:  :lol:

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« Reply #61 on: May 05, 2005, 07:43:42 AM »
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I'm enjoying my coffee now and avoiding getting started again. :x  I wish you were close by too. :(

Brigid


Yesterday and today I have had cafe au lait made with diluted evaporated milk, and a very small amount of coffee (can't drink it full strength.)  Lovely!!!!   :)

Feeling much better today.  Depression of a couple of days ago seems to have been connected to tummy bug/anxious tummy symptoms, which were horrible yesterday, but have now gone.  All now well again.   :lol:

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« Reply #62 on: May 05, 2005, 09:11:44 AM »
October,

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Feeling much better today.


Good news, for sure. :D  :D

I'm here again, drinking my half decaf coffee with a lot of flavored creamer and sugar (I hate the taste of black coffee  :x ) once again avoiding the wallpaper removal.  

I can only imagine how the next owners of your home will feel if they take down those cabinets in the future and find the wallpaper.  Oh well, it won't be your problem.  :shock:

So glad you're feeling better.

((((((October)))))))  (wish I could do it in person)

Brigid

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« Reply #63 on: May 05, 2005, 11:30:43 AM »
Hey Brigid,

If you've still got any of that tenderloin left  I'll come on over and help you with the wallpaper. :wink:  :lol:

October,

I'm also available to pull weeds in exchange for, oh lets say, a lemon cake with a lemon custard center and whipped cream type frosting. Make it big, its a transatlantic fight. :P

mud

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« Reply #64 on: May 05, 2005, 01:42:39 PM »
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If you've still got any of that tenderloin left I'll come on over and help you with the wallpaper


For you, my dear, if you bring those strong arms and put them to work, I'll make you a whole one just for yourself. :D  :D  I'll even throw in asparagus with Hollandaise and a lovely dessert of your choosing--unless, of course, we can convince October to make a lovely lemon cake and come join us. :wink:

Brigid

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« Reply #65 on: May 06, 2005, 05:30:24 AM »
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I'm also available to pull weeds in exchange for, oh lets say, a lemon cake with a lemon custard center and whipped cream type frosting. Make it big, its a transatlantic fight. :P

mud


Funny you should say that.  I made a gf madeira cake yesterday, then put strawberry jam in the middle, icing on top, and sugar sprinkles on top of that.  And there it is, sitting in my kitchen saying sweetly "Eat me!  Eat me!" (As all cakes do, of course.)

Now for the dilemma.  My friend the mad Rector has a May Fair tomorrow, and I promised him some cakes (Also made fairy cakes, each one also saying "Eat me", but in smaller voices) for his cake stall.  I said I would make gluten free cakes in case there are any gluten intolerant/coeliac people there, because for such a person to find cakes which are safe for them to eat would be really nice.

However, how do I get them there and when?  Do I take them today, when he is setting up the youth group for tonight, and will barely have time to say hello and goodbye and ta for the cakes, or do I go tomorrow, and actually visit the May Fair, and all those crowds of people.  Which is C's preferred way, because she would actually like to be there, but I am not sure.  Part of me thinks I would not be wanted, but I can't think of a single logical reason why that would be true.  Tried ringing mad Rector yesterday, but he was not there, or not answering the phone at any rate.

Maybe I should just go down and make some tea and eat all the cake myself.   :lol:  :lol:  :lol:

Brigid

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« Reply #66 on: May 06, 2005, 08:22:20 AM »
October,

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do I go tomorrow, and actually visit the May Fair, and all those crowds of people. Which is C's preferred way, because she would actually like to be there, but I am not sure. Part of me thinks I would not be wanted, but I can't think of a single logical reason why that would be true.


I know this is not an easy situation for you, but for C's sake maybe you could give it a try.  There isn't a single reason why you would not be wanted and I'm sure those delicious cakes will make a big hit.  

I cannot at all relate to your discomfort of being in crowds--well maybe big crowds I can, but I tend to thrive in social situations as long as I know some people.  So I don't have suggestions for finding that strength, but perhaps if it is important to C that would be an incentive for you to give it a test.

I'll be thinking of you as you work through the dilemma.

Blessings,

Brigid

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« Reply #67 on: May 06, 2005, 09:01:28 AM »
Hi All:

Wish I loved near too and I'd come over too to help with the wall paper removal and cake eating!!! :D  

Hey October:

I wonder if it might help to sort of really think about/visualize the scene at the fair, ahead of time, in a really positive light??

What I mean is....see yourself there, smiling, watching C and yourself enjoying the fair activities, maybe sharing a special treat together, feeling comfortable, and safe, seeing all the people smiling and enjoying themselves and not interested in you (because they're too busy having fun), hear the sounds of the laughter, see the end of the day when you both leave happy and bit tired, imagine arriving home and knowing that this will be a lovely memory for both of you...etc.????

Also....if your friend is involved in running the fair and has a cake stall to attend to, he may not have much time to visit with you there.  If you do decide to go (and I'll be cheering you all the way!!!), maybe don't expect to have much of a chat with him there and then you won't feel ignored or disappointed.  If he's busy, it isn't the best time right?

Hoping for a nice sunny warm day for you regardless!

GFN

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« Reply #68 on: May 06, 2005, 03:08:11 PM »
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Also....if your friend is involved in running the fair and has a cake stall to attend to, he may not have much time to visit with you there.  If you do decide to go (and I'll be cheering you all the way!!!), maybe don't expect to have much of a chat with him there and then you won't feel ignored or disappointed.  If he's busy, it isn't the best time right?

Hoping for a nice sunny warm day for you regardless!

GFN


That is the problem.  I hate to go anywhere where I will be in the way or not wanted (no prizes for guessing where that comes from), so I would rather not go at all.  However, C wants to go, and I have rung Rector now, and he said, 'why not come down?', so I am going.   He says I can always escape to the Rectory if I need to.  (You can tell he knows me well!!)  So I have the cakes all ready to take, and we will go tomorrow afternoon, and help afterwards with some of the work towards Sunday.

There may not be time for much talking, but sometimes that is not too important.  As long as I am not invisible.  That is what destroys me.   :oops:

If I can hide behind the counter and serve tea, and be there for C to show the things she has won/bought/whatever, then that will be fine for me.  I am good at that kind of thing.  I can hide behind being the tea lady.   :lol:

So, if anyone wants a cup of tea and a cake, please come along.   :lol:  :lol:

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« Reply #69 on: May 06, 2005, 03:21:22 PM »
Cheers!!!  October, I'm glad you're going.  C will appreciate it!!

It's good that your friend knows you so well and has offered an escape, if you need it.  I hope you won't.  I think you will be just fine as the tea lady!!

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So, if anyone wants a cup of tea and a cake, please come along. :D  :D


Sure wish I could!!  There might not be a lot of talking between us either but it would be nice just to smile and shake hands, maybe a hug.

((((October))))

Have a cup of tea for me and a bite of cake too!!  I'm sure you'll make the best of the day and enjoy seeing C's enthusiasm!! :D  :D

GFN

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« Reply #70 on: May 06, 2005, 03:42:54 PM »
Hi October,

I wish I could be there too.
Might be more talking with me than GFN, though.
My dad used to be able to talk for hours to perfect strangers. The older I get the more I get like that too.
And you're no stranger so you wouldn't have to worry about being invisible with me around. You'd probably try to find some place to get away from me. :P  :roll:  :wink:

Hope you keep positive and have a good day. You deserve one, well several. Well a bunch actually. 8)

mudpup

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« Reply #71 on: May 06, 2005, 05:55:19 PM »
October,

Really glad you're going, for both of you!  :D Hope you enjoy your day tomorrow!

2cents

(btw those cakes sound mighty tempting!  :wink: )

Brigid

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« Reply #72 on: May 06, 2005, 06:03:32 PM »
October,

So glad you have decided to go to the May fair (or is it one word?).  You will make a fantastic tea lady and knowing how you Brits are about your tea, I don't think you will be ignored. :D

I'm sure the big smiles on C's face will take away any doubts you have about being there.  My children's smiles always take away my unhappiness.

Have a wonderful day.   :)  :)

Brigid

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« Reply #73 on: May 06, 2005, 07:40:07 PM »
October, I'm really glad you're going to the fair; C will enjoy it so, and I hope you will enjoy it just as much.

Sounds as though the Mad Rector is a minister in the truest and best sense of the word.

hugs,

miaxo

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« Reply #74 on: May 06, 2005, 07:50:32 PM »
October,

Sometimes we have the most fun at places where we had to *force* ourselves to go. I know I have experienced this.  I hope tomorrow will be one of those days for you.

May God shine his light on you and your daughter.

Mia