Hi Marta & all,
<--there's no smiley blush...I'm squirming now cuz you're all being so nice. What IS that about not receiving compliments well? A coworker pointed that out to me years ago.
Actually my intent was just to wave my little hand and say quietly, did anyone hear me? And you have. Thanks. But now I wonder if I was fishing for compliments? (And why do we headtrip ourselves when there are plenty of volunteers to do it to us?)
Thanks for setting me straight Marta. Some of the experiences written here are just so extraordinary that it is a wonder that survivors such as Sallying Forth and Spyralle and others are coming through it with any sense of reality and groundedness and determination to move themselves forward. I feel like some of the posters here have survived near death, and I am simply scratching my head about my own childhood going "Huh?"
I have a friend with three kids, one of them very autistic. One of my children has significant school struggles but they pale
by comparison, so I stopped talking about my child's progress because I saw her struggle as needing and deserving more support. I felt like I was whining to even talk about my child. I think perhaps it was a mistake because I could have been perceived as thinking I was superior or striking a pose that said, "well I don't have problems and you do". Sometimes sympathy can appear to be condescending or patronizing. But that wasn't my intent at all.
My point is, I get your point now, but I might need to be reminded that we can all help each other no matter what size or flavor our damage is. I think I needed to hear that. So thanks again. MP
