Jay don't despair. My partner was 33 before he made the final break and moved in with me. We both had to leave our nfamilies behind in a hurry though, the abuse was getting bad. I'm not sure how bad you have it within your home BUT I sense your unhappiness is going to build up like my partners did until the day comes when you'll decide "enough" and leave. My partner was so under his nparents control, it didn't help that he worked for his father from age 17 for minimal wage until 25 when his father decided to retrench him and no longer give him work. Usually fathers like to pass on their businesses to their sons. Oh no not this one, plus he ripped him off approx. $30,000 from money that was apparantly "saved" for him, hence the minimal wage of $12,000 per year which is a joke when you work in the construction industry, back breaking work. My partner's mother always did his paperwork. Even though she complained about it she enjoyed having something over him, knowing his buiness. When he applied for a credit card after he turned 30 his parents freaked out. A grown man and they were in my face trying to convince me to cut up his card. I stupidly gave in but luckily he got a replacement card. We both are unemployed now and this saved us from being out on the street. The irony is both our nfamilies are rich, and they have ensured we remain poor, renting out a small apartment that resembles an old hotel room. I remember when we first moved in, his mother sent a cheque to pay for his car registration. He was going to use it, didn't even realise the utter manipulation still at play but instead I got the cheque, wrote a quick note and sent it right back. She did that in order to alleviate her own guilt for being a bad mum. I feel that his nparents have stunted his emotional growth, it sounds like yours have done the same. By emotional growth I mean they have disadvantaged you in life with the sheltered upbringing, enforcing their opinions onto you, and YOU basically living your life for them. By not letting you live your life, let you take risks, make decisions for yourself they have immobilised you. Please consider moving out with the support of a friend. Suppressing this unhappiness won't do you good, thats what my partner and I used to do in regards to our own families but in doing so we were harming ourselves. We wasted years staying at home. Don't waste any more of your precious years. You survived cancer you can survive standing up to them and becoming your own man. You can do it! God Bless! P.S. I'm assuming you still live at home?
