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Children of Narcissistics

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Portia:
You okay Moon? How are you?

Sela:
oh ((((((((Mooon)))))))!

Sorry for you having to go through this.  Not nice stuff.

Not nice and painful for you.  (((((sending many cyber hugs to Moon)))))

I love how you wrote:


--- Quote ---I will live and love the people that know how to love and that love m.my husband and 2 children.
--- End quote ---

That sounds like a fantastic beautiful lovely wonderful plan!   :D :D :D

Thankyou Moon.  I'm going to embrace that same plan!  It's a great idea!!

Why not?  Life is too short!!

I'm glad you have your H and kids.  I'm glad you have love in your life.  That is a blessing.
Yes!  Absolutely embrace them!!

 :D Sela

Hopalong:
Oh Moon. Nothing wrong with you for loving him, or loving your hope of him. That's part of you, it's part of every child and even child-animal. We are genetically programmed to need them to survive when we're little (though with parents like him, we survive in spite of them.)

I have always believed that children love their parents infinitely more than the other way around...

It's now as though there's been a death, and you have to grieve someone who still breathes.
But maybe if you could do that process all the way through, you'd be free.

How I wish you could yell at him in a big booming voice, right (and especially) in front of his coworkers (where an N is all fixated on image):

AREN'T YOU THE TINIEST BIT INTERESTED IN THE RESULTS OF MY CT-SCAN?

I'M GLAD YOU BOUGHT SOME LAND BUT IT'S OBVIOUS YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN ME AT ALL.

I AM SORRY THAT NO AMOUNT OF LOVING YOU HAS DONE ONE THING TO HELP YOU CARE THAT YOU HAVE A CHILD.

GOODBYE!

(End of fantasy monologue.  I think your plan to turn toward love where IT IS is better.)

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....I'm so sorry, Moon.

I'm glad you're bringing the bag of SAD here. We can hold it. It's not too heavy for us.

Take a load off. You do not deserve this sticky shadow that belongs to him. You're worthy, Moon, worthy of all the love in the world. He's just broken. Not repairable, or not by you.

(Have you ever been drawn toward talking to another --a positive-- father figure, like a professor or minister or male T about your Dad's age? I've found my relationships with healthy women of my mother's generation to be very healing of the loss, once I realized she was N...)

Hops

Hopalong:
I love kind loveable Uncle G!
I'd go over there a couple times a week!
I'd tell him I love him and that he's like a Dad to me!
Big smooshy hugs to Uncle G!

No meals needed, I'd pop over with a box of chicken!

((((((((((((Moon))))))))))))...how you doing?

Hops

seasons:
Moonlight, I'm so happy to hear your catscan came out well.  Sorry about the abuse you had to be apart of....(((seasons)))

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