This is the diagnosis my t has made for my h, Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I read the entire descriptions under "Disease Perspective" this morning. Wow! That is my h to the "T." I would say there is one thing he did have out of a long list of descriptions.
These in particular fits my h:
"- seeks to create an illusion of superiority and to build up an image of high self-worth (Millon);
- has disturbances in the capacity for empathy (Forman);
- strives for recognition and prestige to compensate for the lack of a feeling of self-worth;
* - may acquire a deprecatory attitude in which the achievements of others are ridiculed and degraded (Millon);
- has persistent aspirations for glory and status (Millon);
- has a tendency to exaggerate and boast (Millon);
- is sensitive to how others react to him or her, watches and listens carefully for critical judgment, and feels slighted by disapproval (Millon);
- is prone to feel shamed and humiliated and especially hyper-anxious and vulnerable to the judgments of others (Millon);
- covers up a sense of inadequacy and deficiency with pseudo-arrogance and pseudo-grandiosity (Millon);
- has a tendency to periodic hypochondria (Forman);
- alternates between feelings of emptiness and deadness and states of excitement and excess energy (Forman);
- entertains fantasies of greatness, constantly striving for perfection, genius, or stardom (Forman);
- has a history of searching for an idealized partner and has an intense need for affirmation and confirmation in relationships (Forman);
- frequently entertains a wishful, exaggerated, and unrealistic concept of himself or herself which he or she can't possibly measure up to (Reich);
- is touchy, quick to take offense at the slightest provocation, continually anticipating attack and danger, reacting with anger and fantasies of revenge when he or she feels frustrated in his or her need for constant admiration (Reich);
- is self-conscious, due to a dependence on approval from others (Reich);
- suffers regularly from repetitive oscillations of self-esteem (Reich);
- seeks to undo feelings of inadequacy by forcing everyone's attention and admiration upon himself or herself (Reich);
- may react with self-contempt and depression to the lack of fulfillment of his or her grandiose expectations (Riso)."* He's always going around and observing the work of other professionals in his line of work and criticizing and judging them. The point was to degrade them and make them less than his work. This has disturbed me for years. I knew this wasn't normal but what was it. Now I know.
Here is a short description of the P-Type:
Compensatory Narcissistic and Narcissistic Personality Disorders differentiatedIn a chapter of Disorders of Narcissism : Diagnostic, Clinical, and Empirical Implications, "DSM Narcissistic Personality Disorder: historical reflections and future directions," Theodore Millon differentiates Compensatory Narcissistic from Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
The compensatory narcissistic person deviates in a fundamental way from other narcissistic subtypes, as well as from the proto-typical narcissistic person.
Overtly narcissistic behaviors originate from an underlying sense of insecurity and weakness rather than from genuine feelings of self-confidence and high self-esteem. Beneath surface pseudoconfidence, this narcissistic person is driven by forces similar to those experienced by people who overtly display characteristics more akin to the negativistic and avoidant personalities.The web site is:
http://www.ptypes.com/compensatory-narpd.html
