Letter Narcisstic Cousin sent me

[Sela]

My Birthday hasn't arrived yet, its on the 12th

Woooooooooooops!!  Sorry Genuine!!

Let me rephrase that, please:

Premature HAPPY BIRTHDAY Greetings, Genuine...enjoy, regardless!!
  Sela

[write]

I look at a lot of things in sort-of tribal terms lately.
Why some people felt they had to exert such control even malevolently...to compensate or cover up their own inadequacies.

And certainly there are loads of communities where the people haven't yet realised they can walk away and join the 21 st century of choice ideology.

I suspect those people who deny choice are going to be the most vehemently opposed to open ideas like therapy/ personal growth/ setting boundaries....

and the most abusive in trying to contain their people and keep control.