Grieving The Loss of My Pet

[Hopalong]

Another wave of grief. I am so sorry, Sally, but you are so brave.

I am thinking that you deserve unconditional accepting nurturing supportive love, and that the most important source of it, other than your faith, is YOU.

I keep getting this image, even in other threads, that I think so much of our pain might ease if we imagine that we're holding a floodlight, we can sweep it in every direction. But rather than a studio light, it is actually a beam of compassion. The real thing. The felt-in-our-bodies thing, not the idea thing.

And that if we'd turn that warm beam around in our hands and aim it into our own chests we'd know something new. Something good and strengthening.

Worth a try.

I add my flashlight to the chorus of compassion for you in your grieving.
You are a remarkable woman, SF, and I believe you have happiness ahead.

Thanks for telling so eloquently how you are feeling...
imagine all these beams here, shining over you.

Hopalong

[crimson989]

I am so sorry for both your losses.  My Labrador died from cancer in January 2003 and I was devastated.  In time the pain lessens and you realize that despite the fact that you miss them the joy they gave you in life far outweighs any sorrow you may feel now.  I promise it will get better.
 Perhaps you are also mourning the loss of a source of unconditional love that your pet provided that does not exist in your marriage.  Everyone deserves to be loved. First and foremost you need to love yourself.  It sounds like you are going thru a hard time, just know that you are not alone and others have been in similiar situations and moved on.  Keep reading, educating yourself, posting messages, and dreaming about the great future you are in the process of creating.  Because you deserve nothing less than a healthy, happy life.

[write]

oh SF I am so sorry you are suffering. Behr's death has opened up a great wound for you.

Is there no way you can get another pet when you're ready? Not to replace Behr, but just to know that feeling of total unconditional love which we so often don't find in our human relationships.

http://www.petloss.com/ has a global candle lighting ceremony every monday evening.

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