SF, I'm so sorry that's hit. It can't help that in addition to Behr and marriage grief (even a horrible marriage lost is a dream lost--saves your life to wake from it, but still very painful). It's like life-saving surgery. Recuperation can be horrible but oh what a better life you will be having once you weather it.
I have a question about meds. I'm thinking of ADs again too. Haven't used them for several years, but this job stuff plus the usual winter blues have made me start thinking about it. Mine's not as deep as yours, but I do know I'm mildy depressed.
Do you think it's okay to take ADs for mild depression, to keep it from getting worse? I already take occasional diazepam for panic symptoms, am dependent on Ambien for sleep, and take Neurontin every night for restless legs syndrome. Hate to feel like a walking pharmacy, but never feel I get clear answers from doctors about the mixing of medications.
Anyway, don't mean to hijack. Sending support to you for this passage, and I agree, you are jumping to help yourself at every single signpost, and that is really admirable. You have such determination to address your healing, and that points to where you're going.
I'm glad you're sharing your journey here, painful twists and turns and all.
About dogs...I watch a show here in the US that often shows fostering...people who temporarily adopt animals from a shelter that just need a few weeks of stability and affection before they can be put up for permanent adoption. These people always sound really happy about what they're doing, and seem comfortable about loving the animal and letting it go.
Just a thought, might not be the right moment for you though. I know how sensitive that timing is.
But you deserve furry hugs from somebody!! LOTS of them!
((((SF))))
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