Voicelessness and Emotional Survival > What Helps?
Sam Vaknin: 'guru wannabee'
write:
oh well I'll put them up for adoption then...
This is not helpful, it's like telling someone who gets lost- oh, you never should have gone that way!
The fact is they are here, he is their Dad and always will be, they love him and he them and it's about finding the best way to manage that for us all.
Identifying the narcissism is a big help, but the issues are the same if the problem was schizophrenia or alcoholism or cancer. No one chooses those things either.
This is my last word on the topic because I feel rather baited here and wonder just who is yanking my chain...
Anonymous:
I'm sorry that you feel baited and cannot accept a difference in opinion without feeling "yanked". Perhaps the strong affect in you suggests something?
I stand by what I think and I've been thru a lot myself and I know I cannot undo certain things. But one thing is for sure, as an adult, I AM FULLY responsible for the Choices I make in my life.
Argusina:
"oh well I'll put them up for adoption then... "
Very black and white thinking... :cry:
Portia:
edit
Argusina:
Thanks Portia :)
But we also have to learn how to deal with differences of opinion and not throw the baby out with the bath water.
Healthy conflict is part of life & I am not going to be silenced, as long as I express myself repsectfully!
Hugs!
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