MarisaML & movinon, thank you so much for the kind words and advice. I definitely will look into that Boundaries book. I had many users in my life, though I could not find the voice to speak up to them b/c if I do, they go into evil mode and start to put me down, call me names, talk about me behind my back, etc. Caller ID rules yes!!

I tried many times to tell the other family members about the mother's disorder and they have listened but I don't think they believe me b/c they support her every word at all cost. However, my N brothers have turned their back on her before and spoken up about her manipulative tactics -- course she went erratic and angry. One thing I noticed about them is that they would be content for a few seconds than become bitter and angry all over again. It drove me crazy knowing they have somewhat stunted my emotional growth and never respond to me with understanding. No more of that!!
I used to not lock the bedroom door b/c the parents said it's not necessary but I started to when they became so invasive of my privacy, while I'm working on something important, etc. Each time they come it, they try to demand my time away for them to do something right now this instant. I have to drop everything for them -- and once that is taken care of, I can hardly focus on anything else b/c they said in a way that made me have a bad day. I have had them gang up on me before zillions of times. Like if I don't pick up the phone, my N mother would ask my N Dad to call or have an N brother call or email me. I try to be vague as possible and not say much b/c it's my life. My Dad is weird -- he'll mock me and laugh at any serious thing I say -- completely weird & childish. "Oh hehe, you got a new job
finally, that's good, hehe." Makes my anger boil. Then I'll be like, "Are you done yet? I got things to do. Bye!" Cut it short & sweet.
I find everyone's words empowering and I shall keep reading it several times so I remember that we have a right to a life and happiness.