Miss "Has it altogether" is seeking help from this group

[gratitude28]

Parenting isn't easy... unless you are an N... 

[Hopalong]

Blue,
I am stunned at the cruelty you survived.
I hope you have found loving companions in life and most of all, have learned how to mother and comfort the terrified, gasping, sleepness little girl inside you.

The image of you needing care so much and being treated worse that most people treat their dogs breaks my heart. I am so very sorry you were stuck with such a cruel childhood.

How are you now, Blue? Have you found some way forward?

((((((((((Little Blue, Big Blue)))))))))))))))

Hops

[gratitude28]

Jac,
Your insights and thoughts on your reactions are so powerful here. Lots to think about! Thank you!
Beth

[reallyME]

Jac,

Your post not only blessed me because of my situation with my lil daughter, Amber, but it also showed me why Jodi ignored me for 5 weeks and left me alone and crying saying "I know you needed a hug, but I just couldn't give in to you like that!"

~Laura

[BJ]

Maybe a new teddy bear or other bedtime item of comfort might help. What about a boo boo bear with bandages that needs to feel loved and care for? Do you think it might help if she and a teddy bear took care of each other? I'm just a mom with this thought and I don't know how the "security blanket" thing might play into this. Would it be exchanging one dependency for another or... maybe it's a good idea?

[cat]

I have had problems with this for years - much further - into my 40's and probably on into old age.

One of the best things I've found to do is not watch anything weird on tv before bed.  And - yep - the Wizard of Oz counts as weird.

The movies I've turned on are movies that are comforting and stuff I watch when I'm sick (I don't really have to pay attention)  Sleepless in Seattle, While You Were Sleeping, Man from Snowy River - any movie that I've seen over and over again and wouldn't feel bad about falling asleep to.

You have mentioned you're a Christian. . .and I've got some videos my niece loves falling asleep to:  "The Best of Mark Lowry, Volumes 1 and 2". 

Things are better for me now that I live in a secured building - meaning someone has to punch a code to get in a door just to get into my dead-bolted door.  With me, my nightmares were all about security.

[reallyME]

BJ

I don't want to encourage the security blanket thing too much with her unless she comes across something naturally that she wants to have with her.  She is almost 7 yrs old.  My 17 yr old still sucks her thumb.

Cat,

I LOVE MARK LOWRY!  HE IS A RIOT!


Laura

[mudpuppy]

And - yep - the Wizard of Oz counts as weird.

Those flying monkeys alone are enough to creep anybody out.

mud