It's been a long while since I've been here - trauma so I'm back

[pennyplant]

Sounds like good news to me!  So, perhaps you will wind up with a better situation due to the delay.  Very cool.

Pennyplant

[Overcomer]

You know, I talked in an earlier post about how I prayed for patience.  Well, I am NOT a patient person and so it is like I am forced into being patient by having to wait.  So when he called me he told me that the whole company is being moved about and they were redrawing the lines in the regions and districts.  The bad news is if I am hired he won't be my district manager and I have hit it off with him.  But then a real strange twist of events happened........remember how I told you all that I walked out of the back room and there he was in my store?  Well, he asked me if maybe he could buy my store.  His family lives in my town but he lives in Missouri.  He and his wife would love to buy the store and move back to their home town.  Well, we are wanting to sell so I just have to look up into the heavens and wonder if God is working in a mysterious way and He is putting all this together in a real and cool way.  Don't know but I am going to sign off and go have a conversation with God!!  I know He is in control and if I would just stop trying to work everything out FOR Him and just sit back and watch Him work, maybe I wouldn't always be so freaked out.....

[pennyplant]

That would be pretty amazing, Kell  .  I sure hope it works out.

PP

[Dazed1]

Kell,

It's all just simply AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck with eveything

dazed

[Gaining Strength]

Kell - what an amazing story.  I look forward to hearing what happens next.  It is a good reminder about having faith and patience.  You continue to be in my prayers. - your friend - Gaining Strength

[Leah]

You know, I talked in an earlier post about how I prayed for patience.

Oh Kell,

I remember when I was a baby christian, a lovely lady said to me, 'don't pray for patience like I did' and proceeded to tell me how she had been tested .......... till she had patience!!

The lovely lady was a real example of a mature christian, and a sweet 'mother' to me.

It is a good reminder about having faith and patience.

Gaining Strength said it all.

Hard to go through, but, you will be rewarded I am sure.

In my thoughts and prayers.

Leah x

[kelly as guest]

It IS weird, isn't it?  But the problem is my NMOM.  If I go to her and tell her the series of events, she won't think it is anything because it didn't happen to HER.  And she will feel betrayed because I am out looking for jobs even though I know she SAID she is trying to sell the place.  I have given it up to God and asking that HE work out all the details!!  She will put the brakes on quickly!!  Such an N!

[Hopalong]

Kell...maybe DON'T tell your Nmom about it? Just let the events play out as they will?
Neither keep it a secret nor push it forward, but if he comes to meet her, let them meet...?

I am so excited. Sounds like things are opening for you in many ways.

(SO good that you got an explanation for the long delay in hearing about the job. Makes sense, and makes it easier to bide.)

You hang in there, you're doing GREAT.

Hops

[Overcomer]

I almost went in there today and told my mom about me applying for jobs and I just decided to leave well enough alone and see if they offer me the job.  Then if the man who wants to buy it backs out I can mention this other guy.  Problem is he wouldn't pay what my nmom wants because the business doesn't make money.  Not that it couldn't make money but my nmom is so full of herself that she refuses to even look at a budget.......the only year we made a profit was the year she backed off.

So it really is up to God.  And I am starting to PMS so I don't need to talk to nmom while under the influence of raging hormones!!  It might get ugly!

[Overcomer]

Well, I emailed my nmom and told her in light of our therapy visit which ended in an impasse and because she is negotiating the sale of our business, I am looking for jobs.  I told her I have interviewed with three different companies (which I have) but still haven't found the perfect job.  So at least she knows I am looking.  So if and when I get the job I have been holding my breath on (and holding, and holding, and holding) she won't be completely broadsided.  This may also make her a little more serious about finding a buyer.  If she knows I am serious about leaving, she may realize she cannot do it without me and this will force the issue.  Or if it doesn't, then maybe she can get some things done without me there pulling in an opposite direction.  Regardless, not working with her is going to be an amazing reprieve!!!

[kell as guest]

Well, it has been a couple of days since I sent the email to my nmom.  She asked if we could talk in her office.  We went in and the frustration began!!!  I told her it only seemed prudent in light of our therapy which confirmed we were at an impasse, and the fact that we are going to sell, that I get another job.  Then she proceeded to tell me that she thought that I was going to continue therapy to help me learn to work with her.  She told me she couldn't back off at work unless I did, A, B, C, D, and E...and I said NO!!  You are setting me up for failure.  In essence saying if I meet your criteria, THEN you will back off.  Well I will NEVER meet her criteria so she will never back off.  I told her I cannot continue to work with her and if I find something I will leave.  Well, this obvious lack of control bothered her.  So I said, "If you are truly trying to sell the business, then this should only make sense to you."  Well, I know she is going through the motions.  She has no interest in selling.  She is just trying to appease me.  Then I told her if I had my way we would make the bookkeeper the general manager...............and you should have seen the grimace on her face!!!  I called her on the grimace and she said (through her gritted teeth) that there was no way the bookkeeper would ever be GM because she is only a bookkeeper (wrong!!)  So I just sighed and said, I am looking for jobs and when a good one comes, I am out of here.  She complained about not having meetings, etc.  I told her I was meetinged out!!  I was so sick of sitting around talking about the problems at work.  Now, I just need the DM to call me and tell me when the new DM and RVP are coming through town.  I know this waiting is killing me but I really am giving it up.  I wonder if my nmom might throw in the towel (doubt it) somehow.  She seemed a little worried about me leaving.  I told her if we wanted to salvage any part of our relationship, I needed to NOT work with her.  I cannot tell you how many times I have told her this.  I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall when I have any interchanges with her!!!

[Gaining Strength]

I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall when I have any interchanges with her!!!

That's because you are.

[Overcomer]

Right oh!!  If you xrayed my head you would see many concussions......................not dead yet............but my goal is to stop it!!  Yikes.  She does not get it!

[Hopalong]

Your poor head.

((((Kell))))

She really doesn't (and probably can't) get it.

Things will be much better for you when you see her not as an employer...

hoping for the news you need,

Hops

[Overcomer]

Well, I texted the DM who said the new DM and RVP would be visiting all their stores and they wanted to meet me.  He said probably sometime this week.  But boy, oh, boy - the Assistant Manager who has been running the show for over 3 months probably won't give up control easily.  Can't they see that not filling the position for this long is a set up no matter how you look at it?  The store is running under the direction of the Assistant and I am supposed to go in there and take over?  Not that I am afraid of that because I am very diplomatic......

But after all this if I don't get it I will be disappointed.  Although, maybe my nmom heard me (not likely) and will back off 100%!!

Then my aunt said something very telling today.  She said my nmom makes up work so she looks busy.  And I said, "You have been here a year and already know more than my mom......."  She said about practical things yes.  Well, my nmom knows some of the catch phrases and some of the theory..........but she doesn't get it.  My aunt said she thinks my nmom is fearful of being found out that she doesn't know so she makes any excuse to point out other people's faults...............so we all remember she is in charge.

I'd like to think that this is all a part of God's ultimate plan.............................LEARNING PATIENCE HERE, GOD!!!  PRETTY MUCH GOT IT WRAPPED!!