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What IS normal?

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Healing&Hopeful:
I can't remember where I saw this but I saved it on my PC.

What's normal?

What's normal varies from time to time and from place to place. There are fads in psychology as well as everywhere else, and only time will tell what's just a passing fad and what's actual progress. What I mean by normal is this: capable of loving, working, and adapting constructively to changing conditions and different people.

Sela:
Hiya H&H:


--- Quote ---What I mean by normal is this: capable of loving, working, and adapting constructively to changing conditions and different people.
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That sure sounds like a great definition to me!  I'd love to be that normal.....all of the time!!

Ofcourse, that's impossible for anyone because no one is perfect, right?  So.....then part of being normal is not always being capable of loving, or working, or adapting contructively to changing conditions and different people?
I wonder??

I think another nagging part of the question is... what is a normal reaction?

My answer would be that it varies according to a person's knowledge, experience and characteristics.  There really is no absolute normal but maybe there is a basic normal.

Basically....the average person......would react a certain way to certain circumstances.  Not always predictable though......depending on so many factors eh?  Like what's an average person?

Tricky questions.  No real answers possible maybe?

Maybe.......the real thing to consider is what feels comfortable and normal to you (or do you feel abnormal and is abnormal uncomfortable)??

Again.......this might be normal  :shock: .....some of the time for some people......to feel uncomfortable and abnormal??  Who can say?   If different is considered abnormal......then....oh......help us!!!  There are so many different people!!  Is being normal being the same as everyone else?  :?

Ok then.........last question to add to the confusion:

Why do you need this answer? (To ascertain that you are indeed "normal" or to find something normal to work toward becoming??  To determine if others are/are not normal?  Just for the fun of it? :D  Or......could be a scary one coming.........to find some valuable normal stuff to help yourself feel comfortable???)

None of this may apply directly to you, H&H.  I'm just tossing around some food for thought for anyone interested (yummy or wormy......depending on.......taste). :mrgreen:

I admit.....I love pondering such questions.  And reading what other people think.  There are wise people here who might have much better answers (and even better questions) than I do.

 :D Sela 

Healing&Hopeful:
((((((((((((Sela))))))))))
 
One thing I do think is no one's perfect, but they are still normal.  I believe that pretty much everyone has different levels of sh*te to deal with in life, it's how they adapt and change which makes them who they are.  This is why I believe people have a lot of power in themselves to become the people they want to be.  I feel that too much emphasis is placed on the word normal.
 
What's a normal reaction?
Because of how Mum was, when I was 18 I was seeing this boy.  He was very angry one day and I curled up into a ball because I felt sure he was going to hit me.  I was sobbing because I thought he was going to hit me.  He had no intention of hitting me.
 
So... is that a normal reaction?  On the whole you'd say no, however after the stuff Mum had done, it's yes.
 
Take care
 
H&H xx

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