Sometimes it takes years to fully wake up to someone's true character. I really wished I understood about the concept of N in my 20s.
I dated this guy in my mid-twenties and I thought he hung the moon because he treated me so well compared to my parents. Also those he worked with seemed to love him too. After being with him a year and half, I found out he was still legally married, even though he was living with me and told me otherwise.
This guy would fall into the category of the 'charmer'. I was 19 years his junior when we were together. I was completely devastated when I found out about his lie and I always had a hard time wrapping my head around this guy's character. He seemed so kind in every other way...
Over the years, I maintained some contact with him, primarily due to my need to find out more about who he really was. I pretended to be friends with him. This man can only date women much younger than himself.He needs to feel superior and idealized. He does not truly care about the women he dates. He is in the movie biz, so there is always a fresh supply of naive women for him to impress with his name dropping.
This man is pretty impressive on his own, but he exaggerates everything he does. I recently found his wikipedia bio and that just did it for me.
He claims to be a widow, yet he was divorced by the time his ex-wife died. He had lived with 2 other woman as well, myself being one of them.
He claims that he is starting a new studio and that they had purchased land. He was an interloper with some others guys that had an option on some land, but they never had the funds to purchase.
He claims that he 'invented' the peanut sheller, yet the only thing he did was copy someone else's plans formBulgaria, now he is taking credit.
And the lies just go on and on.
He is 59 living with a 25 year old. I wrote her and warned her, but I think she is so taken with him, she will learn the hard way. She refers to herself as a personality', so it appears she is a N as well.
These people amaze me!
Here is his wikipedi entry:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jock_BrandisHe is a different case because he is a old hippy that is not materialistic, so it is easy to think he is a well meaning person.
It makes me wonder how many good deeds are done just because a N wants Nsupply.
These people are soul robbers. He gained my trust and crushed my world. Like he said to me the night I found out about his big lie, "He was so selfish."
