Penelope, you were right, in another post on here, when you said that maybe you were doing things without even realizing it. That is exactly IT...you can't seem to see what you do regarding communication on here with me...but don't worry, I haven't noticed anyone else who does either, other than Certain Hope, and she only got the tip of the iceberg.
calm down. I was not trying to bait and switch you. I'm sorry. truly.
I FORGIVE YOU.
If you would allow yourself to calm down and explain - rationally - what you're thinking and feeling, I believe we could get to the bottom of this.
I doubt that because I'm not sure there is a way to explain rationally about something that is totally irrational.
Here's my point of view:
1) No where did I imply I wanted to be your friend in the last 2 days
Ah we're back to this...I can recall this being used a while back with me. You insisting that I must have you for a friend, then turning on me after that. Why do you see being a friend to you as such a prize? Why do you assume everyone wants to be your friend? Why do you have a need for it in the first place?
2) I have asked if there's anyway you could consider toning down your posts to/about me - hey, I'm allowed to ask right?
Yep, and I'm allowed to keep speaking truth and pointing out behaviors that are unhealthy toward me.
3) now that I understand that bait and switch is your trigger, I will definetely be very careful about my words. I will not "Advertise" what I can't deliver. I can try to not make you feel bad. But, WHAT IS IT I'M DOING THAT IS MAKING YOU FEEL BAD AND THUS YOU'RE IN TURN REACTING TO ME IN HATE?
I do not hate you. Those words never came out of my keyboard. I don't hate people, even if they do have emotional/psychological issues. Some people cannot help what they do, because they cannot see what they do. That is how I view you. It's sort of a robotic thing for an adult-child of abuse, to continue the same cycles that are natural to them. I understand this.
I think that's the key, otherwise, I can't just stop being myself. It's not obvious, in other words, what I'm doing to you. So please. Be specific and Tell me. k?
I'm beginning to see that "being myself" is even sometimes an excuse that people hide behind in order to not have to truly change.
Ok, I would like to have saved all your posts from here, but basically this is what goes on:
I post something contrary to your view, and you begin confronting me (nothing wrong with this part)
Then, when I refuse to bend to your way of thinkiing, the accusations start, about me harassing you and making your life difficult (which, half the time, my comments are general and not addressed to you in the first place)
If that doesn't work to break me, I get accused of thinking I'm better than everyone else
Then, other people are dragged in...the person I gave my phone number to, which again, was MY RIGHT to do, since it's my number.
If that fails, then it's "I never said I wanted to be your friend" as if not having you for a friend is some sort of punishment/reward system. Newsflash...everyone is not wanting to be anyone's friend in life.
Now, in between all these things, people are rallied up in private messages to become against me...so by the time all is said and done, there is not one person on this board who even SEES what was done...flip flopping of messages, robotic communication tactics, gaslighting, projecting, etc....
it's all ok, because I know who I am and what I am and what others portray themselves to be. I'm glad people are getting help and I'm not taking their stuff on me. That's where it's at.
~Laura
P.S> by the way, if I had said specifically that BEAN did these things, the next tactic would be enforced...and that would be where I'm accused of "judging" even after you gave the invitation for me to address specific things about what was offensive to me:
I think that's the key, otherwise, I can't just stop being myself. It's not obvious, in other words, what I'm doing to you. So please. Be specific and Tell me. k?
Remember for future reference: Do not ask if you really don't want to know...especially regarding me. I will TELL you everytime. People do not intimidate me and I am well-able to stand.