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Matthias43:
Hey,  

If anyone is interested in a community that is oriented toward healing NPD itself, then please come visit us at www.journeytowardhealing.com

Please let me know what you think if you decide to visit... especially if you have been a follower of Vaknin and have anything to say on his behalf.

Thank you,  :)

Matthias

rosencrantz:
The link didn't lead anywhere when I clicked on it.

I didn't know Vaknin had 'followers' - have you all set up a new religion??!

I know that many people seem wary of Vaknin- quite right too - an intelligent self-confessed 'sufferer' of NPD is still an N and is likely to  damage the unwary (he says so himself!)

But I am incredibly grateful to him.

He wrote to me at a website I publish suggesting I might like to consider links to his material.  The first time I saw his email, it seemed irrelevant to my content and I ignored it.  However, I noticed it again later on and looked more closely.  

And then I read the foreword to his book.

It rocked my world, shattered my walls, answered the pleas I had put out to the universe for understanding of my mother and her situation.  It put the fear of God in me as I began to understand...and then it set me on a quest to find more mainstream material (understanding the narcissistic pattern, handling the self-absorbed, etc).

I suspect he stirs up a lot of professional jealousy and rivalry amongst the N population but I value the very narcissitic qualities that set him scurrying around the net to promote himself and his work - because without it I'd never have discovered what I now know (especially over here in the UK).  And what I now know has made a huge difference to every relationship in my life, to my son's future, to my own serenity and self-respect and feelings of self-worth.  Need I go on??

My view?  Give the guy a medal!  

My advice to N 'victims'?  Read it by all means, just don't get involved.

My advice to Ns?  a) He's not as influential in the world at large as you think he is and b) Don't shoot the messenger!

R

Anonymous:
Narcissism, in the form of a personality disorder, can't be healed.

bunny

Anonymous:
ANYTHING can be healed- in terms of personality disorder or mental illness. But part of many disorders is a resistance to change....big dilemma.

Sam Vaknin has hijacked the term narcissism to expand his own mental illnesses...he calls himself a narcissist but his bio fits a psycopath.

Many people's objection is simply- he has systematically made it impossible to find objective scientific material about narcissistic personality disorder on the internet.

Matthias43:
Bunny,
I disagree.  I'd really like to hear you go into detail about this.
Matthias

(This post was editted because personal attacks are not permitted on this forum--Richard Grossman)

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