I haven't written on here in quite a while - hi everyone - I am doing great!
I found this great resource for OCPD - Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. This is what my h has. My mother has OCPD and NPD and my father OCPD. I have since dubbed my mother's PDs as someone who believes she is perfect and is always striving to more perfect her perfectionism. Pretty insane if you ask me.

There is a forum on msn for OCPD. Their number one book recommendation is called
Too Perfect, When Being in Control Gets Out of Control by Jeannette Dewyze and Allan Mallinger.
"This is a book about people who are too perfect for their own good..."The forum has been quite helpful and I have healed lots from my childhood stuff with my father and mother.