Is there a particular way or particular type of place..you can meet nice men?

[Plucky]

I hear that people are meeting on matchmaker websites a lot nowadays.
Plucky 

[gratitude28]

I think it depends how you ask it... details, please

Having known Ruf as long as I do, I know that he has some annoying habits. Sometimes I find them amusing... at other times I don't. And... over the years, there have been periods of time when I haven't even liked him much (a week, a month)... But I know when those hit, that after a while we'll be back to normal. I'm sure I more than disgusted him during my drinking... He went through a phase of being a giant asshole when he got promoted... I could name more. But if you count up the time we're happy vs the time we're not... the good stuff definitely comes out on top. A lot of my problems with him have been my own projections (he must think that I am...)...

So... how'd the subject come up????

[Hopalong]

Hi Beth,
He's far away and works 60 hours a week in a huge job he's just begun. No hope for connecting anytime soon.

It was on the phone that he made that remark. I was unsure whether it was dry weary humor or cynicism.

Hops

[tony001]

Last time I was at Wal-Mart I saw a door near the front of the store that said "MEN" on it. And sure enough, they kept walking out that door all day long. (JK - Please don't hate me for trying to be funny. K?)

BTW - There was also one that said "WOMEN". If I'm ever single again I might check it out.

[penelope]

hi hops,

I bet his last girlfriend got "sick" of him?  My guy seems to project old girlfriend stuff onto me a lot.  wadda ya think?

love,
bean

tony - youf funny!

[WRITE]

if I hang out by men's bathrooms and take along PP's friend and weed out all the guys she's attracted to, most people under 30, most people over 50, anyone who spits...I really am narrowing the field!

 

I've been thinking more and more about El Crusho this week, about when we first went out and how much I liked him. Isn't it funny how that hopefulness is more than you can bear to look back and realise it wasn't meant to be? Maybe so we don't avoid future relationships like the plague!

I should type it out that Wendy Cpe poem I have quoted so often:


I can't forgive you. Even if I could,

You wouldn't pardon me for seeing through you

And yet I can't quite cure myself of love

For what I thought you were before I knew you.

I'm really pretty content, so it's not loneliness. Guess I am tuning into the old pattern of someone loving me despite all the odds righting the wrongs of a rejected childhood....something like that.

Of to slap self on side of head then make big cup of hot breakfast tea with evaporated milk!

[WRITE]

Sorry Brigid but the mental picure of two lovebirds meeting each other's gaze and finding true love as they franticly sweep the ice is pretty darn amusing.

speaks of intense passion to me Mud! And if you find you've made a mistake you're already armed with a stick!

I'll add ice arenas to the above list...men's bathrooms at ice arenas Tony!

[Brigid]

Mud,

Sorry Brigid but the mental picure of two lovebirds meeting each other's gaze and finding true love as they franticly sweep the ice is pretty darn amusing.

My dear brother--have you never heard how sexy it can be for a woman to see a man doing household chores?  Sweeping would certainly qualify. 

Seriously though, I would say that the romantic part most likely developed during the social aspect of the sport--and there is a LOT of that.

Write,

I'm really pretty content, so it's not loneliness. Guess I am tuning into the old pattern of someone loving me despite all the odds righting the wrongs of a rejected childhood....something like that.

I think we all deal with that on some level.  We want so desperately to be loved, but not be desperate to find love.  It can be a two-edged sword and keep us blinded to the faults of a potential partner. 

Of to slap self on side of head

Not necessary!!!  It is totally OK to want to find and feel love again after having been devoid of it for so many years.  Heck, I've had to go back into therapy to get help working through the struggles I'm having with my relationship right now.  There is nothing easy about this process--especially for those of us who were not loved as children and never learned how to properly navigate through the world of love and relationships or more importantly, feel worthy of receiving love without feeling the need to earn it somehow.

Brigid