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Anonymous:
--- Quote from: Portia ---Dear Avery. Unlike you I don’t remove a lot of emotion from my posts (I’m trying now). I’m 'ARROGANT' enough to show a personality, warts and all. I will try to consider more often that not everyone can do that, or feels as 'ARROGANT'. What happened was okay to me.
[I don’t expect you to talk to me but can I ask one thing: do you forgive Please let me know. P
--- End quote ---
I just had to do this Portia because you don't let up, and after all you're so confident and honest and open it shouldn't bother you if I've put my interpretation to what you're saying above. You never stop do you? You start with put-down comparisons as soon as possible. I wonder if anyone else recognises it too.
Anonymous:
You remember ‘Write’? I wanted to wring her neck enough so that she considered her kids more, or at all, in fact. A woman staying in her marriage because she got to “travel and meet interesting people”. Please. Perhaps her kids are better off that she stays married though: they have another parent and influences other than her. If that’s a personal attack so be it, ‘write’ can come back and swing for me.
that's the only personal attack I have seen from this poster so far, but I agree, you are rather provocative Portia. Play nice!
Guest Bianca:
I am new, wasn't around when whatever happened way back when, but want to comment that I too see the provocativeness in your posts, Portia. Partonizing and superior.
If that one took you 3 hrs. to compose in your mind, I'm really concerned as to what you had said back then, without such a long time buffer...
Raging on others will not heal your own feelings of powerlessness, fear, and pain...
If you immediately feel like you want to lash out and reply to this e-mail with the height of your anger and venom, let it be a self revelation
for you.. Go to the source of your fear and pain within, and heal it, and you will be less angry with others.
Kind Regards...
Anonymous:
While I appreciate the fact that you are all trying to stick up for me, it's all really ok. really! i didn't write to rekindle any bad feelings or make anyone feel bad. i certainly don't want anyone being upset with anyone else because of me...we all have it tough enough without being mad at each other.
portia has expressed her regrets (as i have to her, privately) over what happened, so i'm all for water under the bridge. we deal with some emotionally charged issues, so someone's bound to get their feelings hurt now and then...i'm sure portia meant no harm - she's simply different from me in her approach. it took me awhile, but i expressed my feelings on the issue (again, privately) and i feel like i've communicated what i needed to - that's a first for me!
as i wrote to portia - all negative experiences can be changed to a positive if we learned something from them. i think i've learned a lot.
again, i appreciate all of your concern for me - but we're all in this together. let's all start fresh and help each other feel better!
whew. now -
i did separate from my therapist...i'll need to find a new one, but i haven't gotten around to it yet. i think she felt more comfortable dealing with addiction issues and i needed someone to help me deal with my mother. (i still haven't spoken with mom since june). lately, i've been really busy with school...i've recently returned to college after a 15 year hiatus. it's doing wonders for my self-confidence (i don't feel like such a dumbass anymore) and i'm meeting all sorts of interesting people. my husband is a dream - very supportive (he's making dinner right now so that i can finish this post) and tells me daily how proud he is of me. so, i guess i'll find myself a therapist when things have calmed down a bit. mostly - i feel great! when i think of the difference between last year at this time and now...i can't believe i made it! my depression has lifted and i feel better than i have since my father died. that's been almost 10 years ago!
i feel very thankful for all of you on this board. i have learned so much and i hope to continue to learn to communicate better. you are all such wonderful people. have a wonderful weekend...i look forward to reading your posts!
avery
Anonymous:
Avery well done. Glad to hear your spouse is encouraging you and supporting you. I said my bit to about the other topic so it's not something you need worry about. I'm not after anyones's blood just had to have my say. You're right about being able to turn negatives into positives, and the older I get the more I see this. Things that I used to think were the worst things that could have ever happened to me I now see have turned out to be the very things that have made me stronger, so I get it. I'm just glad you're okay, better than okay actually by the sounds of it. I hope you find a therapist who understands you and can help you work through the issues with your mum. Going back to studying is a challenge and can be so exciting, I'm happy for you.
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