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What's the difference between Voiceless and Speechless?????

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rosencrantz:
Now, where was I...oh yes - the difference between being voiceless and speechless.  

I've been quite speechless this week seeing all the poison being distributed amongst the different threads by guests but I was aware that, although the ultimate EFFECT was the same, it didn't FEEL the same as being voiceless.

And this morning I realised what the difference is.

Voiceless is when you don't exist (so ACONS and spouses of Ns will be voiceless)

Speechless is when someone takes your breath away.  

Voiceless gets cancer of the throat (vocal chords); Speechless gets asthma and emphysema (lungs).

We all of us certainly 'exist' on this Board (a pause here to send a mega hug to all of us working through the issues relating to voicelessness) but some 'guests' are so terrified of this fact (others...EXIST!!!????) that they are determined to crush the life out of us.

Of course the clever thing about 'N's is the way they distort the truth.  There's always a grain of truth behind what they say which makes them so believable and gives them the power to create such hurt, such pain and such terror in others.
 
Yes, very intelligent (IQ vs EQ).

Yes, great power trip.

Can't quite see the joy in it myself.  But reminds me that Scott Peck called them the people of the lie.  And he defined them as evil.

We softies might have a sharp intake of breath at that word - but don't worry, it makes THEM feel more important.  "Cor! Me? Evil!!! Wow!!!!!"

But it's a warning to the rest of us to keep out of their way.

Spitefulness is a sign of narcissism; unrelenting spite is a sad way of life.  

But they are in much deeper trouble than we'll ever be.

Love to all
R

Discounted Girl:
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lynn:
Hi friends,

This message board has been a life saver for me.  A way for me to see my life in a clearer way through your experiences.  It is a way for me to feel less alone in my own skin.  

I value your thoughts and ideas.  I value that you care enough about me to write a response.  I value that you have been through a life experience and you are willing to share your perspective with others.  

I acknowledge that by posting my thoughts in a public forum, I may get supportive responses and I may get unsupportive responses.  While I prefer a safe, caring response... I'm willing to take whatever I get.  There is value in both types of posting.  I can compare, contrast opinions and through that process, I gain insight.

You see, I am not voiceless if someone is listening.  My guess is that there are a whole heck of a lot more kind, caring and supportive people in this bit of cyberspace than most anywhere else.  My input is to not focus on the unsupportive posts and instead encourage and nurture the folks who really need a place to talk.

Thank you (to all of you) for being here for me.  

lynn

rosencrantz:
Spats are part of what goes on here, but the relentless pursuit of individuals across and between threads is quite astonishing. We've never had that before.

I've been very fed up that there's been so much nastiness on the forum recently as it makes it a very unsafe place for people who are feeling particularly vulnerable - and ACONs are traditionally particularly vulnerable to the negative opinions of others.  Perhaps our guests are not ACONs and don't understand the damaging impact of what they are doing.

This is certainly not a 'huggy' forum - it's a very rigorous one - and we have no rules - that's OK - we can create and re-create our own community as best we can - but, sadly, too many people are taking potshots whilst well hidden by the freedom of their anonymity (road rage rules behind the anonymity of a  steering wheel, doesn't it) and for that reason I think guests who wish to post should be required to register.

We have a right to our individual voice, but with rights come responsibilities - and I think we have a responsibility not to use that voice to pursue and bully others.
R

Anonymous:

--- Quote from: rosencrantz ---Spats are part of what goes on here, but the relentless pursuit of individuals across and between threads is quite astonishing. We've never had that before.

We have a right to our individual voice, but with rights come responsibilities - and I think we have a responsibility not to use that voice to pursue and bully others.
R
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I have to agree with you, you have a valid point. And yet at the same time when I read the latest posts, a lot of which are by you, I feel you are doing this exact thing that you denounce, to ALL Guests, without due consideration or placing yourself under the same set of rules. As this forum isn't just about voicelessness, it's also about emotional survival and as you don't know why the person posts as guest it then becomes a matter of what they are saying, and then if what they say is encouraging or sympathetic which is expressed to offer support to help someone else's emotional survival then that's positive. Thanks Lynn for expressing your acceptance by addressing us all as friends.

I quote Nic now "Shields Up"
Preparing for impact.

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