There are several ways of trying to help N people.
Therapy involves a process of getting in touch with "self" There are ways a therapist does this.
using the past experiences, which is difficult since N has supressed many of them
dream analysis
current behaviors especially as they show up in reactions to the therapist (who the N begins to see as symbolic of the parent)
getting the person to FEEL
It is one thing to say "I am angry"...yet another to FEEL THE ANGER
It is one thing to say "I'm scared"...yet another to FEEL the FEARFUL EMOTION
It is one thing to say "I'm sad"...yet another to CRY
Narcissistic people have swallowed their tears, choked back sobs and screams. They need help to learn how to let them out.
Physicall reduction of body tightness, deep-breathing exercises to open the throat are also useful, as mentioned before...also KICKING while saying "NO!" or "WHY?" as example of PROTEST. HITTING THE BED to express anger.
Reaching out to touch, call for mother, ask for help, using the lips in a kissing or sucking motion
Trouble reaching out, is centered in the shoulders and mouth tensions.
Standing wth feet together, 6 inches apart, knees bent, belly out, pelvis tilted, the person breathes easily and deeply, shoulders rested...in this way, the RIGID pose that the N maintains is released.
Another exercise is to have the person bend forward and touch the toes or floor...this puts feeling back into the legs, which gives a sense of "life" to the lower body.
In order to help the N, release of the blocked feelings, through tightened muscles must occur and the repressed memories must be allowed to come to consciousness
