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axa

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #15 on: December 20, 2006, 07:05:59 PM »
Jade,

I am sorry that things are so difficult for you.  I am not sure what else to say other than I wish you peace.

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Hopalong

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #16 on: December 20, 2006, 07:24:22 PM »
Jade, I'm sorry too.
I hope the new year brings some life solutions for you so you can get off the thinnest ice.

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pennyplant

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #17 on: December 20, 2006, 07:55:33 PM »
Jade, truly this situation is temporary.  How I wish it weren't happening at Christmas time because it hurts even more at this time of year.  But it really is temporary.  My wish for you is that very, very soon you can look back on this time and see that you have come so very far from it.

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CB123

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #18 on: December 21, 2006, 05:58:14 AM »
Jade,

It is so very hard to read about your trouble this year at Christmas and be able to do nothing.  I want to reach through cyberspace and pull you into a soft, cushy chair in front of the fire with a big, hot cup of cocoa. 

All I can do is pray that you will have an unexpected blessing this Christmas.  I cant conceive of what the best possible gift would be for  you--it might be something intangible but very needed--but I will pray that when you receive it you will recognize it immediately.  And on Christmas day, I will think of you and wish you all the best for the coming year.

I dont know what my Christmas will look like this year either.  But I am believing that we both have a new beginning ahead of us.

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #19 on: December 21, 2006, 01:08:57 PM »
To axa, Hopalong, pennyplant, CouldBe123:
Thanks very much for your kind and encouraging words. Better things have happened already:
-- My mom is willing and able to pay the dentist bills -- best Christmas and birthday present I can think of!
-- My mom wanted to buy a "fun" gift for me for $20-$30. I was able, in a pleasant, calm way, to ask her to give me that money for the rent instead, and she said yes.
-- She and I may go to her church supper on Christmas Eve (a good meal, with lots of people we both know), then play Scrabble (we both had fun last time we played).

The best gift I could hope for is a reduction in my chronic anxiety. I think working on assertiveness is the best way to address this.

Thanks again for the support. I hated to be a "downer" at holiday time, but being honest is crucial. It helped me to tell the truth here.
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Re: Christmas
« Reply #20 on: December 21, 2006, 07:47:09 PM »
This is great, just great!  I'm happy for you, Jade.  It sounds like a really nice Christmas too.  The perfect gifts, good company, excellent meal.  Merry Christmas, Jade!

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #21 on: December 21, 2006, 08:17:10 PM »
Wow, Jade!  Was that a record, or what?  Three wonderful gifts in only a few hours!

I am so happy for you.  What do you think about keeping a little journal of this Christmas or maybe write down every unexpected gift and drop each one in an empty vase?  Sometime when things look dark, you can pull out the little slips of paper and be reminded of an unexpectedly special Christmas.

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Re: Christmas
« Reply #22 on: December 22, 2006, 11:46:37 AM »
Quote from: Jade on December 21, 2006, 01:08:57 PM

Thanks again for the support. I hated to be a "downer" at holiday time, but being honest is crucial. It helped me to tell the truth here.

I think your honesty was a gift to us, Jade.  It pays us the compliment of your knowing that we can cope with your reality, and embrace both it and you, rather than rejecting you because you are not covered in fake tinsel.  My own family cannot cope with reality, and because of this they have no idea who I am, or what I mean.  In my less modest moments I realise what they are missing, and that they are losing far more than I am.

So, big hugs for you ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))), and I hope you find a gift for your mother that you would both enjoy.  I was thinking yesterday of taking my d to gather greenery from a wood nearby to make decorations, but I don't know if you are in the middle of a city or not.  But even a few windfall twigs in a vase can look very festive, with ivy wrapped around them.  And crumbled up polystyrene makes great fake snow.  Not sure if I am helping or making this worse ...   :?

I am so pleased that you found a way to pay for the dentist, and for your rent.  I wish I could do more than make wishes on your behalf.  I don't have much, but I would gladly share anything with any of my friends here.

Wishing you peace and a very enjoyable Christmas dinner with your mom.
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