Thanks CB,
From one-line messages from my daughter, and we are 2000 miles apart, I picked up that her ex and eldest son joined forces to take the youngest son away, a year ago. Daughter, for one week, did not know where he was, but he wanted to come home and did, 3 days after she found out. She is not volunteering. After 10 years from the divorce, he is still messing up her life.
I believe they have again joined forces, now that the youngest is 14.
.....and all I can say/suspect is the her damned ex has told lies and stories to turn the boys against their mother and even against me---the old divide and conquer!
He's now 53, baldling, and no woman in his life for quite some time.
(I bought an new TV today, as my 20-year old is on its way out. $70.00 to deliver, plus $40.00 to walk in the door and then an hourly rate to hook it up. I asked my salesman, sotto voice, if he would do it for $40.00 cash, and he agreed.)
Cheers
Izzy