Well, hmmmmmm.......

[CB123]

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[liberty]

Hi CB,

I suffered with migraines terribly as well. I have tried a combination of Riboflavin, feverfew and magnesium. It worked very well for me. Seems as though magnesium levels drop in people who are experienceing migraines and the other two help tone the blood vessels so they don't dilate that easily. there is alot of info available on the Internet.

Good for you in being assertive! As you said it's a muscle that needs to be developed.

Hugs,

Lib

[Dazed1]

Hi CB,

Sorry about the migraine, but GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

Ask for everything you want in this divorce because you don't want to later regret not asking.

What about going to a bookstore and getting a guide to divorce?  Couldn't hurt.

I'm glad you feel your lawyer is listening to you.  That's very important.

Also, you are setting a good example for your daughter.

All the best to you, CB.

dazed

[axa]

CB

Sorry about the migrane.  BUt well done girl.  Ask for everything you can so that you may end up getting what you want.  Glad the lawyer is listening.

Think you are great.

axa

[Hopalong]

I am not satisfied with the good ol' boy system I find myself in (the South--big time).   He, to his credit, heard me and expressed relief that we have a few more days to work through my concerns.

YAY, CB!
Ooo, sorry. The migraine. But that is sos so sos so so so so so awesome.

And YAY, Good Ole Attorney, too. Clearly he has a kind heart and Good Ole Boys are always learninig too. That's so wonderful. Seems to me that all he needed was awareness, and with your assertiveness (okay, your frantic signals), you gave that to him. It doesn't come automatically in a culture (I'm in the south too) that doesn't teach men to perceive how unconsciously even good men in positions of authority can dismiss women's needs, or patronize. What a good man, to hear you and support you.

I feel for men in the south. They inherited a complicated code, where gentlemanliness can disguise patronizing, and good intentions can be obscured by a gentlemanly code of conduct that assumes that most other men are gentlemanly too (iow the psychologist's blinders slipping back on after the truth of his discussion of stbxN with you. His internal monologue, if conscious at all, was probably, let me back off now and just pat my brother on the wrist, so he'll be a Good Ole Boy too like most of us, and co-parent nicely....

SO wonderful that your lawyer gets it and is going to do something about it.

You are amazing. I've never seen such courage and determination.

This is going to reward you for the rest of your life, Axa. And your children too.

(((((((((((((((((Axa))))))))))))))))))

Hops

[Gaining Strength]

I am not satisfied with the good ol' boy system I find myself in (the South--big time).   He, to his credit, heard me and expressed relief that we have a few more days to work through my concerns.

Thanks for posting your courage.  It really inspires me to move forward.  I am a lifelong foot dragger.  I can trace this back to avoidance of my N parents.  But this is definitely a survival strategy that is now harming me.  I admire your moving forward.  It may be horribly painful but you are changing lives beyond your own.  Now that's something to be proud of. - GS