i thought i saw a puddy cat..topic about do n's commit suicidebutcantfinditso...

[retread]

some of what was in that topic that i cant find anymore about n's are not likely to commit suicide but
borderlines are more likelty too..
i think seems probably valid but
i came across an interesting type
named narcissistic borderlines i think
and my sense is that they are not as likely to commit suicide as borderlines
but more likely to put themselves in dangerious situations
where they might die..
such as getting drunk to a degree such that....
they might have an accident etc....

[Stormchild]

wow. NPD and BPD together... what a volatile combination.

thanks, retread!

[Gaining Strength]

Wow! that is so bizarre.  My late husband had very strong BPD traits and though he died of a heart attack he had something to do with it.  He also had bulimia but denied it to me.  I once read that bulimia is a common comorbidity with BPD.  I am convinced that his bulimia and drinking and some other self-destructive actions led to his heart failure.  It felt in some ways like a suicide though no one else would see that. 

thanks for sharing this post.  Probably the worst aspect of living with someone with borderline traits is that absolutely everything that went wrong was my fault.  My father had done that to me as well.  That is so deely ingrained in me and has been a truly poisoned pill effecting everything in my life.  The great damage is that it is still sabotaging me on an unconscious level but I am finally ina place where I am strong enough to dig it out and erradicate it.  This place helps with that. - GS

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hi gaining strength,
some reflections on what u said about your borderline mate
would make everything out to be your fault...
i am not sure but seems to me that borderline aspects sometimes
in certain moods might blame themselves
as borderlines romantic relationship i think has this dynamic
where they do these sudden shifts where the partner is really wonderful
in not so much the hidden manipulative ways of a narcissist
but more heavily into how the partner is mr wonderful
and then can shift into where the partner is terrible
but in that mix i think borderlines are more likely to talk about being at fault....
and really be down on themselves
where a narcissist would not as likely do such, think
in one of my relationships, i think she was probably a narcissist  borderline
and would blame herself and get down on herself
and sometimes i was so wonderful
probably coz i really am 
but then she could shift to where i was lousy and rotten...

when i recently came across the concept of narcissist borderline
it seemed as if it might better fit her than just a borderline...

but it might well be that your mate was narcissist borderline
and always blamed the other.....
..i just didnt fit into some of my notions and so i thought i would comment 

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oops correction to last line of previous post of mine

IT INSTEAD OF I
IN
.i just didnt fit into some of my notions and so i thought i would comment 
ERR THAT IS TO SAY
IT JUST DIDNT FIT...

[Bones]

Retread,

I found the thread you were looking for and I'm trying to put them together.

Bones